hi ive been in a relationship for 2 years and have a 6 month old child.
Since having my baby my partner has become an aggressive drunk.
every time i say the relationship is over, he says he will never hurt me again and that he will be better and make things up to me if i stay, but it never happens
i love him and i always think he will be different. he has changed his ways a little but wont give up the alchol.
if i leave me and my baby will have knowhere to go
hes fine with the baby,should i really put my child through not having a dad and living in a hostol aswell
because a hostol is the only place we could go. we live in a nice house in a nice area at the moment.
should i stay or go?

Prepare to leave, there is lots to do. Get some money behind you, make some calls so that you know where to go (the women's refuges aren't so bad and they realy realy understand and want to help - they are not hostels) with your situation you can be found somewhere safe and far enough away top make you secure. Before that insist he goes to get help,tell him its for your child's future, because as it gets older it's at risk..better to do this sooner. if he says no...don't push it or he might think you will leave and get aggresive.From the women's refuge you can phone him to see if he is willing to change, and this can't be traced to where you are staying.Ask them what the score is I think you can get a court order for access under supervison provided he is getting help (this can be checked). In time when you have helped him to get his life back together, you could be together again, but while you accept the beatings and believe the lies he will never change.
Do it for your child, this illness is huge and you need to ask for help..for both of you.
hugs
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only you can decide what you want in life...you have a 6month old child....when that child goes to pre school and they do 1 of those lovely drawings and the teacher writes what the child says....we live in a nice house and daddy gets drunk and hits mummy.....they ALL say it will never happen again....how can you say you love him??? he is not worthy of your love-and dont forget that once the bub is old enough to have opinions and defy him or annoy him or whatever-chances are he will treat your little one abusively too....i know i would rather live in a tent than put up with that sort of thing ever again-i wish you and your bub all the very best darls xx