This is gonna sound so bad but im fed up of being married and its only been 2 weeks! Its been a rough 2 weeks tho weve moved continents, we lost our baby, were living with my mother in law and sister in law its not ideal start to married life. Im not happy here, before we left i had a fight with my parents and things are ok now but cant shift the feeling that our leaving was spoiled now. I miss my bro and sis who i was really close to since weve been here just over 3 weeks ive spoken to them like 3 times because every time we talk on the fone OH is there nagging me about the cost and wont leave me alone. I dont get on with his sister and feel like his family are weird to me and find everything I do so hilarious and theyre constantly judging me or talking about me maybe Im paranoid because im unhappy. Ofcourse OH is happy to be back home and see people he hasnt seen for years but hes out every day and I dont feel like going with him because I wouldnt be comfortable so I barely see him and we barely get any alone time. and when we are together im sad about losing my baby and maybe im homesick so he says im always miserable and I need to try harder to fit in and I need to open up because I admit i do bottle my feelings up, but when I do tell him how I feel he gets mad if its something he doesnt want to talk about and he ignores me and wont answer my questions so hardly makes me feel better. Weve only been married a short time but weve been together for 4 yrs and living together for 2 of those its been pretty intense lots of fights and all. Im starting to wonder if I made a huge mistake. I always felt from the very beginning our relationship was fun but wouldnt last even tho he always said he wanted to marry me it got too intense too fast I never had the fun side of a relationship and now its definately not fun. He constantly tells me what to wear how to do my hair not to wear make up and if i say hes controlling he gets angry! Not that im perfect I know im stubborn and difficult when I want to be and I will be because I know it riles him. Its messed up isnt it? I cant tell anyone about our problems im not that close to my mum or sis to talk about these things nor my friends I prefer to keep it to myself but it gets too much sometimes I just want to scream and smash things up

Hi Girl where are you and how long have you and hubby been together?
It is hard when you first marry i know i married at 23 and it was BIG SHOCK for someone who was always out with her mates and family to suddenly be part of a couple.
Especially as i am english and hubby is not.
I am lucky cos i get on really well with my mother in law but not so well with my own family.
Look if you ever want to private message me we can talk more as id like to help you.

Take care Ladyrogue x

I couldnt agree with you more, yes he is controlling, and yes you are home sick, problem is tho he will want you to stay with him where you have moved too.
I see things this way even if your not happy i'd move back to your home land. You have tried to talk to him ,which he doesnt want to acknowledge ,so the only other thing is to move out from where you are,whats more important been happy and been you or been unhappy, depressed and staying with your inlaws.
I'd be out of there like a shot,i'd find myself some work which takes your mind of him and the lost child, and id find a place of my own. Marriage seemed to of been doomed to fail.

I too lost a child, through an etopic pregnancy,which would of been my xs first but my 8th.

What point is the been pregnant if your relaonship isnt healthy in the first place?

where abouts are you from? you cant keep everyhing to yourself it gets a little to much and you end not knowing where to go or what to do.

Marriage is a totally different ball game im afraid, i have been married twice, both times the men just changed, i am always around to talk to if you need someone to talk too.

The advice ive given you is what i would do if i was in your position,get out of the in laws place, make sure that i was happy (i know it seems selfish but its what makes you happy that counts)find a job and an income to support myself this way you find new friends and pple to talk too. and to find accomodation out of my own for my own space,

let me know how you get on.

I definately need to ge away from the inlaws its putting me in a very uncomfortable position im not good at accepting things i see as charity and noone wants to live with their family when they get married. Im just feeling like everythings being spoiled. I never thought I was romantic I know im not all sloppy love story but we had a crap wedding, crap honey moon and now start to married life is sucking big time when is it going to be good? and even when it is not like we can get this time back, i feel like I dont have any nice things to tell future children. This is second baby I lost as well lifes been pretty crumby for us! Think everything is trying to tell us its not going to work! But wow i dont want to be divorced at my age it seems so like failure. Thanks for sensible words good to hear from someone i could never discuss this with friends as theyre not even in relationships wouldnt get it and not close to mum in that sense, shed be thrilled she didnt want me to marry him anyways!