I wanted to share my story with you as I've learned a few important lessons and hope some people can relate to it and if you are going through a break up find hope to get through it.
As some of you may remember I was in a violent relationship that went on for nearly 2 years. Before this my relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years was perfect. He treated me so well.
A few months ago I posted on here not knowing what to do, I didn't want to lose this lad, I loved him so much and still do.
I took some time out to reflect and realised that breaking up would be best. It's been a tough couple of months, a lot of tears and arguing, and when I'm with him I realised I didn't like the person I'd become. I was cruel, hurtful and so full of anger and hatred. That's not me and I knew that I needed to get my life back on track. We came to a mutual agreement that this relationship had fizzled out and we both couldn't carry on like this. He needed help and so did I.
I got a new job and am waiting to start my nursing degree at uni. I'm moving back in with my parents and we are selling the home that was once ours, that holds both good and bad memories.
I was terrified of being on my own, but I'm keeping focused on my job, working extra shifts so I don't think about things so much, and am waiting to see a counsellor to try to deal with what's happened to me.
I wanted to share my story because I know that so many people stay in relationships for the wrong reasons. I for one have known deep down that my relationship was over but couldn't face reality. Yes, it's been hard work and a struggle to sell the house and deal with the break up but in the long run I know I'll look back and realise it was for the best.
In my new job I work with people who are ill and it makes me realise that life is too short to be unhappy. If you are getting treated badly don't stand for it.
I've learned from this experience and will know not to settle for less again. I will never forget my ex and will always love him, but everything happens for a reason. I hope you all find your happiness and remember time heals a broken heart. xxxxx Thanks for reading

Hi,

Just wanted to say well done for doing the right thing. Like you say life is too short to be miserable. It will get better, I wish you much contentment and happiness for your future!!

CHIN UP,

Rita x