Here's my story.

I met my boyfriend, Dan at a professional seminar 2 years ago.
Since then, he never failed to keep in touch with me. However, along the way, I found out something that made my heart break- he was already attached.
To cut the long story short, he broke up with his girlfriend of 2years to be with me when i made him choose 3months later.

The thing now is his ex-girlfriend seems to be very dependent on him to do everything. She needs him to buy her groceries, needs him to send her to work etc.
I told him i cannot take things like that.
If he chose to be with me, I believe he shouldnt be still tied down by the obligations mentioned above.
He begged me to allow him to at least help her get on her own two feet and that will take another 6-7months.

Here's the worst part, she has been staying with him when they were together and she refuses to move out eventhough they have broken up. Now they live in the same unit but not room.
And my boyfriend doesnt even have the freedom to stay over at my place (eventhough i was terribly ill)!
Sometimes, i feel like the other woman. I feel as if his ex is more important than me.
What am i to do?
Dump him and get along with life or make him choose once again?

I dont have the right to blame his ex because I have no idea what her side of the story is.
Perhaps my boyfriend is still not over her and it makes him feel better to still have her around therefore, it was not her who didnt want to move out but it was him who refused to let her go.

I really need some helpful advice or comments as I am desperate to get out of this misery.

to be honest it sounds like hes stil as dependant on her as she is him, you cannot know what is going through both their minds. but you can see the ins and outs. if he is chosing her obligations over yours then i dont thnk he is ready for the relation that you are. maybe try to spend some time with him, like going out for dinner that way its casual and you can see how you two get along as friends and as a couple.and if you feel his mind is stll on her than you should move on to someone that can be there for you when your ill and need some loving attention. every girl deserves to be drowned in love and attention from the guy shes with ...that is love afterall right? but i say time, maybe they have somehting that needs tobe cleared in 6 months time that you arent aware of. speak to him. clearly. and honestly and if hes not opening up anymore than you deffinately have a better love out there for you somehwre eles. good luck. pretas x