Hi girls, I am Fiona,a transexual ,finally living full time as the woman I have always wanted to be. I have recently started the process of trying to get a man in my life and quite enjoyed some nice snogs and some straying hands but still a bit frightened about full sex,but won't be long. The thing i really want advice on is if I should tell a boy friend I am transexual. Part of me says 'no' i am now a womanand what came before os irrelevant. On the other hand I would hate to really fall in love with a guy only for him to find out and than reject me. all thoughts most welcome.

HONESTY all the way i think,emagine wot most lads/men would say if they found out afther,may b its not fair todo that to them,i have false boobs an i always am honest bout them in case someone else tells them later,u no maybe saving me the awquardness later.is there any one who could or would throw a spanner in the works for you,there normally is for me, all the look in the world,xx

wow that's a REALLY tough disision (or however u spell it) for me to be able to come up wth 1 answer, i need to know (if it's ok wth u) if u've had an operation to make you a woman. 'cause if you have, then your a woman. and if u tell the guy ur a transexual and he doesn't accept you, then he wasn't worth it. find someone how will accept u for who you r not someone who will judge you.
'k? we should get to know each other. contact me. jimi

Hi Fiona,

I think it's fantastic that you have taken such a huge and incredibly brave step to become the person you want to be.

I think that if you fall in love with someone who loves you back equally, he should be able to accept you no matter what, and your past should not matter. I also think you will gain a lot of relief from being honest with the guy and therefore be wholly able to enjoy every aspect of the relationship - imagine going out with someone for years and always having this secret in the back of your mind - that would be a lot of pressure to handle.

However, I know that in reality, rejection is always a possibility and that that would hurt you very much - but I don't think you can ever have a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone who can't accept you for who you are. You are a woman, and therefore your past should not be an issue, and a decent man will understand this.

So I think tell, but only if things are becoming serious - there's no need to put yourself through the emotional hassle of telling people if there is a possibility the relationship won't progress anyway.

Hope this helps hun,

Gem xxx