me and my father have been having sexual liaisons, and I am worried we will get caught at some stage. any tips?

Hi

Is he your biological father? How long has this been going on? This is not good at all. It is illegal and especially if it has been going on for some time. You need to tell somebody. If you do get caught out the consequences could be really bad, prison for your father. It would help you alot if you spoke to somebody about this. Im going to be very blunt with you.. END IT!
Sorry if it hurts to hear these comments but were only advising you on what we think/Know is right. Live your life and enjoy being young!! It doesnt last forever.
xx

Hiya hun,

you don't say your age but I'm guessing that you are around 18? I'm quite concerned that you are having any kind of sexual relationship with your father, especially if he is your biological father. If this is so, your father is taking huge liberties, is abusing his position as a figure who is supposed to love, nurture and protect you, and is massively taking advantage of and disrespecting you. I'm assuming he is a good deal older than you, and older men can seem very charming, very clued into your needs, but ultimately he is your dad and this is an incestuous, illegal relationship.

I'm sorry to be blunt and if I offend you but the reality is that this relationship is unacceptable, as your father is well aware of; and I would encourage you to tell someone older who you trust and to seek help. If this has been going on for some time, particularly since you have been under the age of 17/16, your father has committed child abuse, biological dad or not, and it is understandable that you may have confusion around your feelings for him brought on about his clever manipulation of you.

You are young and have all your life ahead of you to find a loving fulfilling relationship with a man of any age, or simply just to have fun and enjoy your youth.

I really hope you do. Please let us know what you decide to do, but I would strongly strongly advise you to end this as soon as possible.

Love Gem x

You don't say if he is your biological father. I am 19, and when I was 16 mum remarried a guy 6 years younger than she is, called Tony From the start I fancied him a lot. Eventually when I was 17 and a half, Mum had to go to look after her sister's kids for two weeks while she was in hospital. I started to move in on Tony, I must say he tried to keep me off but then when he was in bed I walked in naked and got into bed with him. We shagged all night, and for most of the next fortnight, I wasn't a virgin but he taught me a lot. Since then, whenever Mum is away, we ... I have boyfriends but I still love it with him. I asked the family doctor who said there is nothing illegal.

Hi Cindy,

I can understand that you have developed feelings for your mum's partner, but I really think you ought to either end it or bring it out into the open for your mum's sake. This is your mum who loves you and who believes she has a man who loves her very much. She has a right and she deserves to know that he is not 100% into her so that she can find happiness with someone who is. I'm sure she would be absolutely heartbroken to realise that the two most important people in her life are doing something so utterly thoughtless, selfish and cruel behind her back, however at least she would know where she stands. This really should not go on - if this man loves you he will still be there for you at the end of it, if not, you and your mum will both be better off without the fannyrat scumbag. If it's just about the sex and you don't love him, then a whole lot of trouble will ensue and a whole lot of feelings will be hurt over something so meaningless.

When you were 17 and a half and you went to bed with this man, you were legally still a child (although old enough to have sex), and this act was abusive on his part.

I'm sorry to be so blunt but I think you need to hear an honest opinion. Please put your mum first, as I'm assuming she has done for you throughout your whole life, and do the right thing.

Gemma x

i think this is bad...sorry to judge ( i dont normally!) but i do think a blunt opinion is very important!
firstly- ure mum. ok, have you ever been cheated on? it horrific when you give yourself to soemone and they do this. imagine how bad it would be for your mum to find out her mans cheating and with her daughter!! secondly shes let this man into her family home and so must trust him. he and you are both abusing and taking advantage of your mum. this woman brought you into the world wether you like it or not and therefore deserves respect and this is the ultimate is disrespect. men will do this to women and hav done andw il lcontinue to for the rest of time, however this is abd enough as women we must contend with this without our fellow women (and daughters!) adding to this.
its also very strange. that guy has had his penis inside your MOTHER! this sounds awful but when you think of it like that its actually quite disgusting. sorry to put it that way but its the truth.
have to say this guy is obviously just as bad but i have to wonder if you are really to blame as you said you persued him! its very seedy and sent a bit of a chill through me actually and im quite liberal.
as i said i dont mean to judge but this is truely not good and i feel there may be something not quite in balance within your self that you can do this maybe you should seek counselling as this, to me, seems liek you have an issue with your concience especially as you also hav a boyfriend.

good luck
Laura

why should any of us apolagise for being blunt...WOT ARE YOU DOING...THIS IS WAY WRONG you have yet to GROW UP,and carry this with you for the restofyour lives,an wen youe mother finds out who are you going torun to then???NO ONE WILL EVER BE ABLE TO TRUST YOU .youll neva have any true friends,and one day wen you have aman of your own with kiddys someone might do the same to you,then you will feel the pain disrespect and suffering that you oncecaused,and for wot your own STUPID EGO,that you can get any man you want even your mothers man,well think about it mrsy.MOST MEN WOULD HAVE SEX WITH ANY THING THAT MOVES,especially wen forced to,wots he gona do wen a silly 17 year old persuades him to,how could you,you little hussy,i hope you feel bad every day,bet you havent told your friends have you???? REMEMBER WOT GOES AROUND COMESAROUND 2 HARDER
TELL YOUR MUM NOW AND SPARE HER FINDING OUT BY OTHER MEANS,,,,
HOW CAN YOU HAVE FAMILY MEALS AND CHRISTMAS FACING THEM PRETENDING YOUR A PROPPER FUNCTIONAL FAMILY,WOT A FILTHY FELLA THIS TONY IS!!!YOUR ERE IS MESSED UP!!RESPECT MY ASS,all them mothers day cards you have sent since you fucked her fella,i wish i new her,id well tell her how SEPTIC you really are,eewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww wwwwwwww