me and my boyfriend have been together for about 1 year, we are both 18 and well our sex life had almost completey gone, all due to me as he wants it and i didnt. I have no idea why though. But I have recently found a solution, flirting with guys over the net and such. I would never tell him that, that is what has given me a boost but I'm just thinking am I wrong to do this. I know the relationship is over and I'm just waiting for the right time.

why cheat why not just get out of the relationship you are obviously not into the guy anymore or you would be having sex with him what's the point of flirting.

If you want out of a relationship you should sit down and talk and be honest with your boyfriend/girlfriend or partner 'BEFORE YOU CHEAT'not after.

Everybody hurts and everybody has feelings.

Cheating is a very very very nasty thing to do to someone.Its taking their heart out,ripping it up,spitting then stamping on it.
Whats wrong with being a good person and just telling your partner the relationship is finished?
I hate reading articles of people that cheat,when they look for excuses.Of course they're going to delve into their minds/brains and look for any tiny detail to try convince themselves its ok to cheat(they do this to make themselves feel better).Then they start to believe its ok because he/she treats me like this and that etc...Its not ok,its betrayal.Your stopping someone from having a life.

Ask YOURSELF a question...
Are you as a person an honest person or a lier?

Sometimes we cheat because there is something missing in the relationship. You said that you flirt with guys on the internet - probably the things that these guys are telling you or suggesting to you are the things that you would like your boyfriend to do for you when you both are in bed. I don't know if you have told your boyfriend all this but maybe it might be a good idea to one day or while you both are in bed to let him know the things that really turns you on and probably gently guide his hand to areas of your body that you would like him to touch while you are both having sex. Men do not always know everything that turns us on and so they need to be told. In regards to the guilt you seems to be feeling about flirting with guys on the internet, maybe this has enhance your sex life so far - however maybe if you start practicing what you have learnt from these guys with your boyfriend, you might find that you might like it and so would he. After all you both are still very young and has a lot to learn still so please do not abandon the relationship that you have with your boyfriend just because of his lack of inexperience in bed. Trust me, there is more to a happy relationship than just sex.

do think what your doing is cheating if you feel guilty about it then it is. and if you know the relationship is over why not end it so you won't have to ask the question are you cheating.

" i am also cheating"

I have known my husband for thirty six years and we have been married for thirty two years. We have three beautiful children. However, I find that during the years my love for my husband is slowing weaning. I have been trying hard after having the children to make much of myself by studying but my husband seems to just stand still during the years and do not care much about studying or learning anything new. I find it very difficult to even communicate with him as he seems to say everything in the wrong context and still do not want to learn basic English. My children are also university graduates as myself and we try to speak well hoping that this would also encourage my husband to at least learn basic English. When I met him I realised that he liked to gamble alot and I thought that with time that he would have given this up. However, as the years go by, I realised that his gambling gets worse. I seeked help for the family hoping that this would have helped him to stop gambling but instead he continued to gamble. I feel that my husband has no idea of how to treat a woman or his family. If I was not paying the mortgage, it would not have been paid if I was depending on my husband to do so. He has no idea of anything going on in the home and he has always been the same. In view of this behaviour I have started cheating on him ten years into the marriage and I have had three long term relationships while being married.I am now dating a man who I have studied law with 7 years ago - he is now a barrister. He is very nice to talk to and very encouraging to me. He is a great inspiration to me - I have now applied to do my LPC in law and all this would have not happened if I did not have this wonderful man keep pushing me.I love him very much and the sex is great. He makes me feel like a real woman. My husband take me for granted and so I am now fed up with his sex to the point where I now make many excuses not to have sex with him. I do not feel any guilt about my cheating on him. I married this man during my teens and I feel that he has wasted my time. All of the relationships that I have had so far, the men has treated me with love and respect. However, they were all married like myself and so the relationship was going no where and so it was a mutural understanding when we decided to part.I thought of divorcing my husband for many year and I even discuss this with him. When I do, he becomes very arrogant and overbearing. I actually went and saw a family law solicitor on one occasion and he calmed down a little. I then stopped everything hoping that he would have changed but he hasn't. I have helped to build everything that we now have, as a matter of fact I have been the brain behind it all. My husband do not care about these things and I now feel that if I should leave him now that I would lose quite a lot even though I might gain peace of mind. In addition, everytime I make up my mind to leave him, I realised that he would be hopeless on his own. He is useless at making any kind decisions for himself or the home apart from gambling and so I have been burdened with everything around the home and this includes DIYs. My current relationship with my barrister friend is very good and we are very much in love. I feel that if he was not in my life that my life would have been very empty.

there's nothing with trying to boost your sexual urge...you're still young...
go on and explore things.... you'll never know...

Hello,

There has to be a reason why you dont want sex off your boyfriend. Ask yourself why ? whats he done that has made you not want it ?

The solution you have found is not the solution that your looking for, flirting may make you feel good but it doesnt really solve your problem does it? your fantasiseing over other males and not thinking of the one that you are with.
Either way you know its over, you know you have deceived him, why dont you just tell him that its over, you could be waiting for a long time for the right moment, and really there is no time like the present to finish it with your current partner, at least then you can flirt all you like with out feeling guilty about it!!!

If you find the right guy to be with you will probably feel differently, thinking about it you probably dont fancy the guy anymore the fizz has gone or he doesnt satisfy your needs in the right way.

hope this helps.

thinking outside my box.

I dont think its wrong what you are doing because your only young, i dont really see a problem with you going on the internet and talking to other people as sometimes this can give you self confidence, so have fun while your still young.

Gemma xx