Hello, can anybody advise me

Been with the same guy for four years now, we do not live together and he has never committed. We do love each other and are trying to work things out, but his past infildelity always comes between us. I find it very difficult to trust him

He works a bar three evenings a week and will not quit that job as helping his family.

Will I ever get over the trust issue? Will I ever be able to relax with him?

how about considering of leaving him....

I know several upper class relatives and friends, where both spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend cheat each other, and have affairs with 3 or 4. There is no harm in that relationship, as long as you don't get sentimental and emotional. Stay with your b/f as long as he can ... you good and you have cli-o, g-spot o, and anal o. Enjoy life. Life is too short to worry.

there are different types of people, some find it acceptable to cheat and have mutual agreements, im the opposite - and far too emotional to cope with that!

It depends what type of relationship you are looking for, me (being a divorcee) am looking for my soulmate to spend the rest of my time with, no more heartache

Hi, to me it sounds like he's having his cake and eating it, cheating once can be forgiven..but it'll always be in your mind no matter how hard u try and forget, but twice...and looking at his lifestyle, that can't be forgiven and i don't think i'd take that and i really don't think u could forgive and relax! sorry to be harsh but if he's not willing to fully commit to you then i 100% feel he'll keep cheating on you because you've let him get away with it twice. Do u really want to waste time with him always wondering what he's up to, making your relationship worse and being really down all the time?..........think of you!!! i'm sure you deserve better then this. Let go and find happiness with a real man!!

Good luck whatever you decide to do!!!!!xxxxx

Kate, thanks for taking the time, its good to hear the opinion of an outsider, not a friend or member of family who are always obv going to look out for me and not put up with anybody breaking my heart.

I always held on because i loved him so much, have been called a fool, and also been told i am wearing rose tinted spectacles! People never know what i saw in him and i do know i can get better but when you fall in love with somebody it makes life more difficult!

You are right in everything you say, just hope im strong enough this time to move on x

Thanks - Michelle