Well what can i tell you. Been married for 3yrs today been with husband for 9yrs everything was good til 2and half yrs ago we started trying for a baby had problems was told we needed to have IVF treatment due to husband having blocked tubes caused by scare tissue after a football injury. We thought we can work through this well thats what i thought. Suddenly went from a fantastic sex life to none thats been for 18months and counting he doesn't touch hold or kiss me anymore. IVF seems to take forever which didn't help.
Got to the point I told him if things don't change I'm leaving I need cuddles, kisses and SEX!!!!!!!!
The next thing to my problem is a very good friend of mine who I've known for 16yrs that I have always had a huge crush on and him for me ended up sleeping together the only reason it didn't happen before my husband was our age difference he six yrs older which doesn't sound alot now but when your 14 it is.
I've told my husband I want to try and work through things and try again. I love him but not sure if I'm attracted to him the same way anymore I don't get horny looking at him anymore he's more like a friend now that I live with.

What should I !!!!

Could counselling be a solution? It seems to me that there's something fundamentally wrong if you're trying to have a baby with this man yet you're not attracted to him anymore. I think you need to ask yourself some serious questions. Starting with: is he the man you want to have a family with?