I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now.. and i couldnt see myself without him, but we do argue a lot and it stems from the fact that the first few weeks together there was a lot of trust broken that we did get through, but i still can't shift it out of my mind.

He kissed another girl while we were away and the only way i found out was out of spite because he told everyone. He says he regrets it and it only happened because aparently we weren't together.. which we were.. we just had a fall out before he went away. but im finding it hard to let this go

then theres the fact that whenever i have been out with friends on a night out he has done whatever he can to ruin it, and consequently my friends dont invite me out anymore because of the drama it causes. and now all of a sudden he is going out a lot.. thing is i let him go out and have a good night, i leave him to it. i dont know whether to entirely trust him? he lies about where he's going and then when i find out from his friends he makes out that there is something going on between me and his friend when i dont even know them, i find myself checking up on him.. and he says i need to get over being so paranoid. i find it so unfair though that he is able to go and have a good night out with friends when he doesnt let me do the same with mine? what am i meant to do to feel better? ruin his nights like he does mine? i feel that if i did that to him i would lose him, he says he realises but i dont see how he has when he has done it on every occasion surely he would have learnt from the first


just really confused.. any advice if anyones in the same boat with trying to get over a partner lying and not understandin why?

thanks, ash x

Hi,

I'm not in your situation but I am married for 20+ years. This man has no respect for you and seems to be trying to control your friends. This is not a man you should consider a future with,his behaviour will just keep getting worse. Think twice before you deside to keep this one.

Good Luck