I felt i had to write something on here, Why the hell do people forgive cheaters ?? Ive been with my fella for 2 years, we are planning our wedding and ttc but never in a million years would he ever cheat on me and vice versa. If you dont trust somebody then get out of the relationship because at some point it will all end in tears !!
The main ingredient in a relationship is trust ??? If you havent got that then you havent got anything ??

If somebody truely loves you they would not do it to you.

Ive been with my fella for 2 years, we are planning our wedding and ttc but never in a million years would he ever cheat on me and vice versa.
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99% of relationships begin like that dear.Never say never,it may come back and haunt you one day.

yup...i guess cheating is a very serious matters....
so if you're considering it....think it over...

i dont agree that trust is the main thing

but i too cant see why you would forgive someone that cheats

well i did totally agree with what you said.untill 2 years ago when my hubby had an affair.after 20 odd years of marriage.been apart for 2 years.well i tried to hate him but i hated what he had done.i did not believe itthe bottom of my world fell out so to speak.how could he i was his every thing him mine.my soul mate the love of my life.but
things are not just black and white.we are now trying again its hard but i think it is worth it.

I had the exact same view as you until it happened to me.

I vowed never to stay with somebody that cheated, but when it becomes reality, and you love somebody so much and done want to lose them, in addition they are begging for forgiveness and blag your head with all sorts of rubbish you end up give the relationship another try.

Trust is always an issue and I am yet to find out whether leopards ever change their spots...!

There is a book "women who love too much" that explains just why people (not only women) cope with situations that aren't logical. It's a way to deny to ourselves that something is wrong, that we can cope with everything. To cope is also a mechanism caused by our fear to be alone, without a partner, and it's also a way to control our emotional lives in order to avoid diving into the pain of rejecting or being rejected.
Fear, my dear, only fear.

The situation improves when we work on our self-esteem and self-worth through the help of a counsellor or psychotherapy workshops, only then we realize how much damage we do to ourselves and can we redeem our true lives.

Best Regards

i completley agree with u i have been with my bf now for almost a year and we would never dream of cheatin on one another an we trust each other 100%. Although my friend was cheated on by his girlfriend and her excuse was 'i was drunk sorry it was a one off' and he let her back now they 2gether again i dont know how he has done it he said its because he loves her but for her to have done that can she really love him? So yeah i agree i dont no how people can put up with been cheated on.