I have been married for 12 years and my husband had a one night stand (so he says!!) about 7 years ago while i was pregnant with our 2nd child. The affair produced a child which he didn't know about until she contacted him and asked him for dna test which proved positive. He pays maintenace every week and never sees her. God things get mixed up. Now 3 years ago i was away a weekend with friends, all without our partners, i ended up with a friend, but he is 13 years younger than me. We have carried on this affair on off for 3 years now we get on very well and have a lot in common. Last year things got very intense between us but we managed to cool it. We prob see each other at least once a month now but it is pure sex nothing more. He has a girlfriend and has just bought a flat. I have a husband and two kids and a nice lifestlye. I look forward to his tex messages and we have fun for a couple of days. But, and there is always a but, why dont i feel guilty? none what so ever not even an ounce? and is it so wrong nobody is getting hurt nobody knows just me and him. should i feel guilty? but i have started to think i should call it a day but he says he'll never give me up. But i start to think how many other lies has my husband told me or affairs he's had as i now know how easy it is to lie. Is the the end? just need to know what other people think i haven't told anyone this not even my best friends. but i'm thinking too much these days.

your're cheating to your husband....
having him cheated on you....does not give you
right to cheat on him......
you're just making the situation a lot
terrible....
if that's your mentality then you should have not
get married at all...

Hi also have 2 children and, one night me and my friend and bf got really drunk and had a 3sum. anyway one night a few months later i got really annoyed at the fact he'd slept with my friend even tho it was a 3 way situation. and i ended up having a one night stand. to cut a long story short. i owned up to my partner about what happened and it was the best thing i ever did! if i wouldnt of told him im almost certain i would of done it again, because i could! and could get away with it. and thats not what i wanted i wanted to work things out and be totally in love with my partner again. he was really upset and it made me realise how much i loved him. eventually after alot of deep conversations about our relationship. we sorted it out and we've never mentioned the 3sum or 1 night stand again. that was 4yrs ago and we are really happy together. i think you should cut off ties with this bloke and if you cant, tell your husband what happened. it'l either make or brake you. by the sounds of it your not madly in love with this other bloke its just sex and excitement. but remember its also a lie and you cant live a lie for the rest of your life xxxxxx