My fiance went out on the weekend with his mate to watch the rugby, only he didnt watch the rugby he went 2 watch strippers instead! I only found out cuz me and his sister's wer out and we met up with them in a pub and his mate slipped up and told us where they really wer! It's not like there classy stripper's either, they get completely naked (no knickers) and do sex acts on each other! His mate even had a photo of him with 2 strippers under each arm with there legs up so EVERYTHING was hanging out, ergh, but my fella thinks that's ok cuz he didnt have a photo taken!

Now when i found out i went absoulutly mad cuz i cant stand thinking of my bloke lusting after the ho*s! We've been arguning bout this since saturday, and im still really angry and i cant bear 4 him 2 touch me! I keep thinking am i not satisfying him enough that he need's 2 go and watch them? There not excatly classy or sexy! Am i over reacting?

Hey, when I read your message I was actually thinking is this me??? lol! Well not exactly the same story but a few weeks ago it was my boyfriends 21st and quite a few of us went to Blackpool to celebrate it. I was having a really good night and just enjoying myself and then we went to this bar. It seemed OK then when I went to the dance floor there were these 2 girls in bra n knicks on stage dancing all over this bloke. I was just like "oh what a bunch of rough slags" and thought nothing more of it! Anyhow, bout 20 minutes later the DJ shouts my boyfriends name to go on stage to have a "birthday dance"! Some of the lads we was with chucked in for him to have a dance with these 2 girls! I was absoulutly mortified and humiliated. The look on his face when he was there just made me cry. They were all over him and it made me feel sick! I just ran in the toilets and sobbed. He thinks getting upset about that is silly but if that can happen infront of my face, what is going on behing my back???

i find men that do this repulsive and exxtremely nasty. if it were to happen to me, i would have left him, im not having any man of mine watching some other girl strip naked and writhe all over him...would he like it if i did that to him?...how would he like it if i stripped for another man??...maybe then he'd now how i felt when someone did it to him...men that to this are just so cruel, they dont think azbout the consequences and who or how much they hurt people. what a discrace.

I think u both made good points, i have sorted things out now, but i will find it very hard 2 forget! I still havent got it out of him, 2 why he went there, but, as u said men will be men i guess..

Thanks again xx

for any suggestion u can contact me in private!!! aaaa biiig kiss

i just cant figure men out, they want you yet they go out lusting over strippers etc..... i dont mind my man watching porn but he knows i will not put up with him seeing this in person ,just like watching strippers, he goes to a hooters bar just before footie ,he knows i dont like it cos i found out he fancies one of them, which he denys but i dont believe him and he knows im going to leave if im not happy, so he will not admitt it so i have now told him if he goes there again all hell will break loose, he knows i have had a very low opinion of my self and if he wants to go out all the time and act like a single guy then that is what he soon will be, he would hate it if i went out lusting after men so why should he be allowed to do it,i stand my ground with him ,i can only be happy if i let myself even if it means not putting up with what he does,so be strong and stand up for your self and try to love your self more, xx

dear mum, i think that men need this type of "enterteinments" not coz they are evil or mean, but simply cause its in their nature. you are right, you are angry with him, i understand and im agree with you, but you should try to understand that hes only a man, and maybe you could forgive him...
a big kiss!!!! bye bye

My boyfriend went out to a stripbar with his dad (who he only sees once a year) for his 18th birthday. After he came back, he was estatic and we couldn't listen to a single song on the radio with out him going "Oooh, this girl was good!" Is it just hormones? And how do I break to him that I didn't like him going. It's sad that girls do that as a job. I believe that something as deep as showing yourself should be between you and the one you love. Am I just old-fashioned?