i told my partner (my ex now) that i wasnt happy in my realationship,i told him i wanted a break so i can ort out my issue's on my own and most of my issues are trusting a man,i have hardly ever been single and am so fed up with being in a realationship that i really want to go it alone, he is addament that i have another guy lined up and just will not understand why i feel i have to be on my own,we have kids together and i believe if im happier then so will the kids as i wont feel as stressed and i can be a bit calmer and therefore concentrate more on my kids, i just wanted to know weather you guys think its better to stay together for the kids or can i do it on my own, i am scared of feeling lonely but i need to be on my own (if you know what i mean?) so should i stay or should i go? shellyx

it's mum212, we had a chat not long ago! Sorry 2 hear its come to an end but if thats how u feel then so be it! U need some space, maybe you'll find what u really want on yer own! I know its hard cuz u got kids, but they suffer if ur unhappy! Do what's best for yerself darling! Good luck, and u know where iam if u wanna chat!

Bye xx

Take some time out chick, sound like you relay do need time on your own. After 9 year two kids down the line i left my partner, spent the last two years arguing trying to make things work for my kids but hey it did'nt four months down the line im great mates with my x we get on better know than we ever did an our kids are happy, i have even noticed a change in the behaviour of my kids since the break up they are more relax around us both an less argumentative with each other i agrae totally with you if your happy your kids will be. Take time out from him if its ment to be it will be so a little time out will not do any of you any harm. Just don't get stuck it a rut like i did.

hi shelly hows it going??even when its your choice and what you want its still so hard isnt it??lots of conflicting emotions..my ex also kept saying that i must have someone on the side-i think they just cant stand to think that nothing at all might be better than being with them!!strangely enough (ok really i wasnt at all surprised) my spot was filled instantly...me im still very single 18 months down the track...i do have little moments of loneliness..but mostly thats to do with missing my son....he is spending a lot of time my ex...who is for the first time paying him some attention...and of course my son is lapping it up...thats hard considering i spent years protecting him from his dads foul temper and abuse...my daughter supports me absolutely-which is wonderful..ok so would i do the same again??? YES!!! even with the issues with my son...the way my whole life has changed is amazing...i have so many more friends,im travelling,i can be me...i put up with hell for 20 years-never again-very best of luck with whatever you choose shelly big squeeze to you xx

i have spoke to my partner(ex) or what ever it is, he says he desperatly loves me and because he has lost me he wants to change things and has even suggested realationship counciling, im shocked that he would go that far to try and make things work, im so stuck now as i thought time out on my own would help me find myself, we plan to do a alot of talking , but i dont want to jump into things yet, thanx so much for your reply, shellx

dont rush-take as much time as you need...talk lots with the counsellor-together and on your own and work out what you really need and whether this relationship can meet those needs..best of luck big squeeze xx

i think i will try the councelling before getting back together and see how it goes from there, thanx so much for your replies ,i am truely greatful, xshellx