I need your opinion and advice.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years because he cheated on me and didnt want to break a contact with the girl that he cheated with. Now I actually think that he wasnt with her only once as he said but many times. I know now for sure that he is with her now and she is like his girlfriend. He went into her arms soon after I left him (moved out of our flat) and I know this because I was spying on him. I also know that she is very much in love with him and she loves him, but he still wants to be with me. He is sending me text messages all the time, calling me and sending me emails. He even sent me flowers to my work. I am sure she wouldnt like this if she knew this. But the fact is that he is lying to both of us. I know that they are together now, but he doesnt know that I know this and he is just saying that he is not going to have anybody for a long time. Also he is very jealous when I tell him that I am going to meet my friend, as he thinks that I am dating somebody else. He is such a liar and he is playing these games with me well I am not stupid and I know everything whats going on and I am never going to go back to him, although he wants me to. Before when I was with him, he was all the time hiding texts and phone calls from this girl (I know now that he was really cheating on me with her and it wasnt only once) and now when he is with her I am sure he is doing the same thing, hiding to her that he is sending me text messages and that he calls me.
The thing is that I dont want this girl to be with him, I dont want her to be happy with him and I just want her to be a bit suspicious and jealous. I want her to have doubts in him, because he is not a good person and he doesnt deserve somebody to love him like that.
I never want to be his girlfriend again because I know that he is never going to change and he is always going to lie about one thing or another thats how he is, but if he agrees I just want to meet him for sex which would mean that he is cheating on his current girlfriend. She is actually going to go abroad for a while to study, but she will be coming back to visit him all the time and then after she finishes her study (after a year) she is going to stay with him. Well thats the plan for her.

Do you think is it good idea to have sex with my ex, while I am single and until I find somebody else? Or is it bad idea? I would kind of revenge to that girl who went with him in the first place although she knew that he had a girlfriend.

Once a cheater always a cheater dont listen to that stupid whore victoria all she is going to do is lead you down the wrong path.... the whore path. Meet new people, get out and have fun. If you go around sleeping with everyone youll never find someone who will treat you right.

if the sex feels good with him why not...but he has to make you feel good...if its just for revenge why bother...its really best if you find several guys you like and get all the pleasure you can

what kind of sex does your ex bf like...does he cum in you or do you make him use condoms and do you swallow for him...

does he go down on you and make you feel good... do you have orgasms with him

Hi please dont even think about sleeping with him again, I did this with an ex of mine and it tore me apart, i thought by sleeping with him he would fall in love with me again (im a lot olderand wiser now lol) and realise now that it was the worst thing i could do, your cheating ex is already suffering by the sound of things, the fact that he is jealous at the thought of you going out with your friend and he wants to sleep with you again says it all, so let him suffer, take it from me a man who cheats will always cheat, hope this helps.

i totally agree with cherryllo, you should not sleep with this loser because the only thing you will do is feed his ego and hurt yourself. you don't need to take revenge on this guy either, i'm sure you're a better person than that. the best thing you can do is just try to forget about him, although that is usually easier said than done...i hope remembering his unfaithful acts is enough to keep you away from him

The best thing you can do when a guy is stupid enough to cheat on you is just to walk away and say, you've made your bed with her, lie in it!

If i were you, I would simply print of a copy of all the pathetic emails and everything he had sent you, get them laminated, staple them and either hand them to her yourself or get someone else to....thats it, you have done your bit, told her the truth and got your revenge...end of, you can move on!!

DO NOT sleep with this guy, you will be letting him have his cake and eat it, why on earth would you want anything near you that has been inside something else a couple of hours before??

Just think about that and it should gross you out enough to leave well alone!

He doesnt deserve you! If you stay having sex with him while you are single, you will stay single as whether you know it r not , somewhere in you you still love him!

Please please have respect for yourself and just leave him alone and tell him to **** off! If i were you i would tell a close friend to not letyou sleep/go out with him under any circumstances and tell her/him to intervene if needs be so you dont end up falling for whatever charm he may have!

remember you are worth so much more!!

No don't, you will feel connected with him and that will cause you lots of pain..never sh&t on another woman especially when a man is to blame. Get together with her and kick his sneaky lying butt..together.He needs a lesson
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I don't think you should. In fact I think you should cut all ties with this man. Don't reply to his messages or answer his calls. I also wouldn't take your revenge out on the other girl. Its not her fault, you know he's a liar so he probably lied to her and told her he was single while he was still with you. She may end up getting hurt but it's not your responsibility to tell her about him and even if you did tell her she may not beleive you and think you are just being a jealous ex.