I've been married for 12 years with two kids and am totally board and don't even fancy my husband anymore, find I have sex with him to "get it over with" knowing he'll leave me alone then for a few nights!!!

I've just started a flirting relationship with my postman and I feel great. We have been flirting now for about 12 months, and I love the way he looks at me. But last week things went further, I invited him in when the kids were at school and one thing led to another, not sex, I gave him oral sex and he cum in my mouth. I feel so guilty, do you think i've been unfaithful as we've not had sex. Never done this before, but I enjoyed it.

Anyone else in a loveless marriage and only staying for the kids?

as for my advice...i think you should talk to your husband...
maybe you could both make extra effort to save your sex life
or your relationship....

LOL @ this, of course you bloody cheated! are you some kind of idiot?

It's not something that I want to shout from the roof tops, but it is very exciting. I'm also married with two kids but for me it's one of our neighbours. "If your gonna do it, why not do it on your doorstep" so to speak.
I've got this new confidence with him, and I like it a lot. It's as if I've re discovered who I am again, this has been going on for 5 months now my husband has no idea!

Ohmigosh, if its a lovelss marriage get out of it, not for yourself but for the kids, it has been proven that children suffer alot more when thyre parents stay toghther just for them, beacvuse they have not gorwn up in a house fulll of love, i know at the time it seems like the right thing to do but did you ever think how big an imapact your staying toghther in a loveless relationship will have on all your childrens realtionships in the future, will they know what olove even is? lead by example, if your not happy then do something to make yourself happy...but dont have sex with the postman!!! be a positive (and happy) role model for you children to be happy and postive

I strongly agree with andy 100% you are, and i agree with luckyteen

sam2903 why broadcast that as if you are proud? Men can be evil but women can not only be cruel but selfish with their need such as their sexual pleasure needs. You should never ever cheat at all, never mind on your husband. Yes you have needs but does that justify committing infidelity just to satisfy your own dirty desires? Absolutely not. It's your responsibility to talk to your man and tell him you are not satisfies so he can strive to please you better. Don't be selfish and encourage this sort of unforgivable behaviour please. It's very disturbing as a young man seeing women talk about 'yes I cheated, but he wasn't satisfying me and I have needs' Andy is right and although whore isn't really appropriate and he shouldn't have said that there is a name for girls who do that sort of thing to please themselves and you two may be one of them. Sorry.

if your husband has been good to you, you owe it to him to put a little effort into your relationship, there always trying new things that at first will seem like more work than fun for you but once you see how much fun you can have you might just remember why you fell in love in the first place. Maybe try roll playing or meet your husband in a bar wearing a wig and flirt with him and run away on a lil one night stand with him, As for the mail man he has no respect for the instatution of love and marriage if hes willing to help you cheat on your husband in the home you to share, whose to say he wouldnt do the same with another woman if you two got togther

Hi

Yes, you were unfaith you dirty whore. I can't believe the women on here are sympathising with you. My god if i ever get married i hope my wife never comes on here to recieve the crap advice people are giving.

Andy

Andy

Don't call my a dirty whore you b******d, if you can't help keep off the site, and don't criticise the people giving me advice!!!

I really can relate to your situation through my own experience. I was in a relationship that had burnt out and i had an affair. I think you are better going it alone and live life to the full. Your marriage is probably over and it is better to end the relationship. Being a single mum is great. I dont sleep around but it is nice to have some fun every now and then. I have never been happier and am just about to qualify as a nurse. My life would of been so different if i had stayed in the relationship. If you are having sexual encounters another man then someting is wrong with your relationship. Dont stay in a relationship for the sake of your kids, they are wiser than you think!

thats a really sexy story...its exacty what i advise women and girls to do when they are bored in there relationships...women actually need more variety of partners then men do and we can obviously have sex with many men in a short time period..

did you do this again since you wrote about it...are you swallowing for him or spitting it out...will you have sex with him and will you let him come inside you....are you on the pill or do you want to get pregnant from him...

if you get bored with your husband then give him good handjobs while you tell him what you did with your new lover...he will really love that

Hi, I think that definitely counts as cheating but is anything good really going to come of getting off with the postman? (He's probably doing half the women in your street by all accounts anyway). To get to the important issue thoughn, please don't stay in a loveless marriage - I know from experience that it won't make you, your husband or children happy if you just bury your head in the sand and pretend everything is OK when it's not. They'll also think far more of you for being honest and facing up to your problems and dealing with them the best way you can. Let us know how you're getting on hun,
Neila

hi
yes you have cheated, please dont stay in a loveless relationship at best you will have wasted years being unhappy, at worst your kids will pick on things and im sure you dont want your kids thinking that what love is.
be strong and focus on you and only you. I know its a hard thing to do as being a mother you put everyone first

you know you cheated...if your husband gave another woman oral sex wouldnt that be called cheating ???????

i agree with andy