I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 27 i've been seeing him for a year, i'm 25weeks pregnant and he still hasn't told his family. He wouldn't even tell his friends, i told a few, but i think the rest of them guessed.
He has another son, he goes round his ex girlfriend's house to visit him a couple of times a week. He leaves his phone in the car. (she doesn't no i excist), i also saw her car where she works, and he's avdertising his business on her back window.
I really want to tell her i'm having her son's brother, but he said he'd kill me if i jepordised his relationship with his son. He's a bit sick really isn't he?!?
He went on holiday to France a few weeks back it was an all lad holiday. But i found a letter in his drawer saying to my 'butterfly' (my nickname)! I read it and i was smiling thinking it was for me, but it said i emailed you yesterday so you can read it at your mum's on tuesday. (He hasn't got my email address). I confronted him but he said it was an old letter. Even though the pen he wrote it with was in the drawer next to the letter.
Am i being Naive?
Please give me some advice

first of all...you're too young to be a mother...
i just wished you tried to be careful but
you have it already...
a baby is a blessing....so you should not get rid of
it...
you should ask help or advices from your guardian...
they might be able to resolved some stuff about you
and the baby and this guy...
don't let him control you.... his son deserves to know
about his sibling....
and lastly....get away from this man....
you're still young...you'll eventually find a guy suited for
you and your baby....always put your baby on top
of your priorities....

you have got yourself into a bit of a mess haven't you. take it from someone who put up with infifelity for many years until finally having the courage to get my own life back.allyou will do is spend the rest of your life wondering where he is or what he's up toand with who. getrid of him nowand start to plan your own life your own way .youand baby will be so much better off. itwon't be easy at the start but each day will get brtter and there's always the chance that someone special might come into your lifebesides baby. just cut him of without any messing about and resolve to have nothing more to do with him. if he was anygood somebody would have snapped him up by now but your the only mug willing to put up with this king of behavior.at the moment he's got his cake and eating elsewhere,theres only one person who can change things and thats you. don't live a life of misery and heart ache like i did 1 quit solid refusal and you could get your life back.and his threat to kill you is very illegal for which he can be arrested.and quite possibly something you should talk to you health visitor about. if you don't hae one go to your doctors and get one,at 16 you shouldn't be going thru all of this alone. i wish you luck and god bless you and your baby.

u need to get rid he obv doesnt want this baby or you and you need to take your baby and care for it yourself!!! why is he not telling ppl he shud b happy not hiding it form ppl??

seriousley go while u can he is a lying cheating ba*tard its so obvious! ive been in this trap once before thankfully i wanst preganant u can do without this and u cud do with soemone who will treat u with some god damn respect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First of all the thing we have to look into at this stage is the age gap. Now i know love has no age and i congratulate you for being together a year before becoming pregnant with his child. But alot of relationships where there is a huge gap can result in these type of stuff. He is a grown man and will use that fact in defence to any allegations given to him by you. Antoher thing i'm extremely concerned about is your safety and that of your childs. You mentioned earlier that he said if you were to inform his ex on your pregnancy he would kill you. Now is that the sort of person you would want your child to grow up around. Informing his ex on your pregnancy wouldn't at all dilute your problem because she is most proberbly an older woman and wouldn't care about what you are telling her. To her your a child and would only care about the fact that her sons father is with you if he is also with her. The most important thing you have to do is tell your family because you only mentioned telling a few friends, you need their support at this stage because putting yourself through any sort of stress can affect the innocent little person relying on you to help them grow healthily. I wouldn't advice you to do anything stupid as your safety is in consideration. You need to focus on the most important issues and forget about telling his ex about your baby and the letter you found. Don't let him affect you or your baby in any way. Your a young girl and you've got many many many years ahesd of you. As a 16 year old also i would like for you to enjoy your teenage years with your baby.

XXX

i hate to tell you but a womans intuition is usually if you think he's cheating he probally is. As in telling his sons mother i would because your most likely not the only one being lied to, plus her son deserves to know about his sibling, my advice RUN from this relationship there are many men who know how to treat a woman

Your boyfriend is taking the ... out of you. He should be proud of the fact that you are pregnant instead of trying to hide you from his friends(and his ex!).I would be inclined to think that he is still having a relationship with his ex. I would tell his ex the situation. I advise this because my ex partner got another women pregnant during a seperation and hid it from me. I felt more upset from the fact that he kept it secret. You have nothing to feel ashamed about, but he has!! All the best in your future with your baby!

This lad is older and he's controlling. He should be proud that he has you and the baby to look forward to. He's not committed to you. It sounds as though he spends alot more time with his ex than he does with you indicating that the relationship is still going on. I wouldn't stand for his behaviour. Tell him where to go (but still allow access to the child)and tell his ex so she knows what sort of guy he is! You're young and have the rest of your life to find a decent guy who loves and respects you. Firstly, concentrate on you and the baby.
Good luck!

Laura x

your guys just a sleeze playing games with other peoples lives tell his ex and make sure you tell her everything, she like you deserves the truth you may even make a good friend out of her, after all you will both be mothers to his children. i know its hard to raise a child alone im doing just that, but believe me its a lot harder when your in a bad relationship.you and your child deserve kindness love and respect and there are many men out there who will give that to you but dont be in too much of a rush take time to heal your heart and to enjoy being a mum to your little one.Your life wont end just because you dont have a man in it.Take time to learn about who you are and what in a man is important to you. your so lucky you are young and time is on your side .
ENJOY LIFE AND YOUR CHILD AND GOOD LUCK XX