Hi ,
I really need help with this as through this relationship I have lost all my female friends. I don't know who to get advice from.

I may as well be honest from the start, i have been with my boyfriend for 16 mths, within 6 weeks of being together, we both cheated on each other (on the same night) i have never ever even kissed a guy since then, but im not sure about him. We get on unbelievably well, I truly believe he is my soulmate, and I know for a fact he does too. We get on amazing and we lived together after 5 months! My problem is now with my insecurity, i have lost most of my confidence. He is a really good looking guy, and i used to think i was good looking myself. But I have really been brought down. From the start of the relationship, he has always spoken about beautiful girls he has been with, he says now it was to make me jealous because i cheated also, but it has made me feel so inadequate. The way he has spoken about his ex is really unbelievable, he once foned me drunk (during the initial bad stage) and told me how stunning she was, what girl wants to hear that? There were girls always phoning him. after we lived together for 2 months thats when the really bad thing happened, he didnt't cheat! But i found (by accident as I fully trusted him) texts, vey dirty suggestive texts from a girl, they were replies obviously to whatever he had wrote, and they were all sent on my 21st birthday when i was out with friends! I have had problems with my family and I really got to an all time low. However, I forgave him, but never believed the the lies he tried to cover himself up with, wouldnt want to make you laugh. There has been a lot of small incidents also, too mant to tell.
He has really tried to make everything up to me, he hasnt even went on a night out with friends for nearly 9 months! so i feel good and dont think he is out getting girls. He always complements me, but sometimes i dont think that is enough. I always feel paranoid about any girl who he is near, or any good looking girl who walks by! How bad is that!
He tries and tries with me, he always buys me presents, but i think now this is all in my head its hard to budge! I dont want to be a psycho bunny boiler and wrap him up in cotton wool, but i feel sometimes thats the way i act!
I used to be such a confident person! How am i going to help this? any advice or anybody had anything similar?
I know this is the guy i want to be with and i love him withall my heart! he does too!

xx

hey darls first up - why have you lost all your female friends??? that is never ok!!! your women friends are sooo important!! they are the ones who will be there many boyfriends and husbands later!! they are also so important to your confidence - your girlfriends will always tell you how fantastic you are! ok so you both did somthing silly at the start of your relationship...that is no excuse for him talking to you about other girls that way! if you have both decided to continue the relationship after that its in the past!!!if he needs rasurance tell him he can ask for it - but no put downs - no comments on other girls - thats not ok for them either!! they dont need to be treated as something to use to get to you!! he needs to understand that sort of talk is just not ok - tell him!! as for the texts...thats phone sex....any kind of sex thats not with you is just not ok!! buying pressies and giving compliments are very nice but its the everyday living that really matters - how you behave most of the time to each other...if you are not feeling secure you need to talk about why...tell him how his comments make you feel-if he doesnt think this matters then you do have a problem...now get out there and do whatever repair you need to with your girlfriends and make time for them...oh and do stuff to remind yourself that youre a gorgeous woman....go get your hair done..buy some great clothes...walk like you own the world....and smile - really smile - go for it xx

hello well im 16 years old and ive been with my boyfriend 2 years and a half but i really do love him but after 2 years we started to drift and he chated on me with this girl and i forgive him but to be hosent i was meeting this chap but nly has friends and never done nuffin but one day he came in my room and he accidtley saw my boob which he day mean to see then after that my boyfriend stop in monday till thursday till revise and i said i wor gewin out but i was with my mates so he dumped me and then after he dumped me i went with this chap but i regrat it but we fall out for ages after that and really just got bk together but i cant forgive my boyfriend for what he has done am i hass bad has him though but i never cheated on him i just cor get that girl out my head i dunno what im gunna do can you please help love you charl