hi to everyone, i'm new to this forum and i need advice.

some days ago i was in my boyfriend's bedroom looking for handkerchiefs, when i found handcuffs and a babydoll in one of his drawer!

they were wrapped up in some light paper, the one used to wrap presents in stores, you know.

when he came back i asked him if they were for me, but he said they weren't, and also: "i've never used that stuff!"

so i asked him WHY he had that stuff, and after i insisted, he said some years ago a male friend gave them to him to go to a party in disguise...

i don't believe in this, i think that perhaps it's something he used with his ex? we've been together for two years now, and i don't know how can i know the truth..

xxx
jenny

he's probably telling the truth....
why bother about it?...
the most important thing is
if he's using it with the other girls
while he's still attached to you....

ive been given all sorts of things as a fun pressie from workmates etc-he may be telling you the truth...and really as long as he isnt using them on anyone else now is what he may or may not have done in the past any of your business??as long as it was legal-i think not!!

if it's something from the past, it's none of my business and i don't have any right to investigate about that! everyone has little "secrets"

the fact is that those things just weren't in that drawer a couple of months ago... and that he knows very well that i never get angry for something that happened in the past (when we were not together)

so i don't know what to do to find out the truth, since everytime i tried to ask him politely he got angry, and i wonder why

i have read your problem out to my other half and he says that your other half might just be a cross dresser and in to bodage as well.

Find a way that you can ask him but with out been too direct with him or even sugest that youd like to wear the baby doll and be tied up and see what he says.

ok sounds like you have taken a very reasonable approach to it all....id put it in writing...tell him that you are willing to listen to a reasonable explanation - but you do need one - make that quite clear - then give him a time frame in which to respond - dont just let it drift on...good luck i hope there is a simple answer xx