A man I am dating via a social forum, has a reputation as a bit of a player. I knew this. I asked him about it. Checked he was single, checked there was no-one else to be hurt. I played it cool and cautious for a long time.

We met up. It was, is, great between us.

There is another woman, a friend he has never met up with, but has msn flirted with for some time, but tried to finish with her around time he met me. He still sends odd text to her. But does all the regular texting phoning, etc with me.

He's just been away on holiday. He says with a male friend and his family as a last minute thing.

I smelled a rat.

I logged onto the forum they met on, and it seems she was in the self same resort, at same time as him, and absent on a mutual forum we are all on, for same time as him.

When I've asked him about her he says, not it's not true, and don't I trust him, and it's only me.
He is loving with me, we are meeting up again very soon. We plan not to use condoms, as it's now a regular thing.

I have created a rapport with the lady I think he went away with, under false name. And am hoping to get the evidence I need, even if I don't want it.

But Why if he knows I am fresh out of being hurt by another cheat, and it took me a lot to trust and feel safe with another man would he do this.

How do I tackle this.

My usual bull in china shop approach results in phones being slammed down and upset on his part.

thank you.

feel free to call me an idiot.

id like to call you that but nope...
woman's intuition are accurate most of the time...
if there's something fishy...yes, there must be it...
go dig into the situation....

move on

Listen forget checking his phone and all that jazz.
You know deep down something is not right and if he knew the other woman was going to be at the same holiday then why didnt he take you?
My advice is to dump him and go find a real man who will NOT cheat on you cos he will have everything he needs from you.
So good luck girl let me know how you get on.

Hi!
Sounds like you are going the right way about things,
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hi there,

I would get as much proof as possible, check his phone, bills, emails, computer pictutre files.... if you can.

Guys usually deny when confronted, even if it IS true they are cheating!!

Once you have proof, then confront him, otherwise he will always come up with some excuses.

Good luck

If you think to say "goodbye" to him is really cruel for you, then the way is to ask him to meet the girl. Maybe they are just for fantasy in the unreal world. Of course, maybe they have some other stronger love connections.

I think I would do the same thing! Something is not right otherwise you wouldn't have these doubts. Follow your female intuition!
Good luck!