I dont know what to do, ive been with my boyfrined over 2 years, he's moved to my uni now as its better for his course and to be with me! everything is good, but when he started at his old uni, a girl kissed him! he told me that they were gettin on really well hugging an stuff but when she kissed him he pushed her off! he ran out of the club, she followed him and asked him if he loved me, he replied with yes, he saw her the next night and asked if he's told me! he said no as he only told me the day after that! i was gutted by the whole thing, but wanted it to work, and believe that he did push her off, i think!there was a guy i was mates with at uni, and not long after this happend with my boyfriend, i kissed my boy mate, i feel awful, but told my bf that my mate kissed me and i pushed him off, which i didn't straight away, i feel awful tho! nothing else happend,will it cause unnessecary hurt tellin my bf now as it was ages ago? if i tell him i didn't push this guy if right away he may well finish with me, and part of me still thinks i would never of done it, had he not hurt me so much orignially! please answer, thanks xx

hey shimmergirl,
i think you should just be honest with your boyfriend because you would want him to be honest with you! and no matter what people tell you on here its not going to change the way you feel inside, it will always eat away at you and you will always have that dreaded queation in your mind... ' what would he do if i told him?' i understand this is probley hard 4 u luv but things are always better out in the open i no from experience lol. and if u av bin 2geva 2years he shud hopefully understand y u did what u did n believe u wen u say that it meant nothing!!! put it one way something good could come out of this........ such as finding out weva or not he really wants to be with u and by telling him this u may even find out weva or not he did actully push that gurl away???? think about it chick..... but get back 2 me and let me no wat u decide, good luck xxxx

if he really love you...he would
probably somehow find it in his heart
to forgive you and still would
accept you....

Oh girl i know all about this type of thing the same happened to me and my bf and i have been together for over two years as well. You have to tell him even if it hurts him coz if you dont it will at you and you will never truelly be with him untill you open and honest. Tell him that you wanted to tell him and its been eating at you this whole time. Also tell him that you did it coz you wanted him to hurt the way you did when he did it to you. You guys will have to talk about it sooner or later. I'd say sooner. If you need anymore advise i'd be happy to help you. Just make sure you dont make the same mistake again. Goodluck

Hmmm well shimmergirl1 who told you your ex didnt do the same? maybe he kissed her too but was afraid to tell you? if i were you i wouldn't think about it anymore everybody does some mistakes in life the only thing is to remember our past mistakes and try not to do them anymore so stop worrying !!!

hi i guess the main thing is - what would you achieve by bringing this up now? if its just to ease your conscience by confessing and its just going to hurt him well maybe you just need to have a talk about boundaries and limits and whats acceptable in your relationship and whats not....without rehashing the past-just discuss what you can both do to stay within what is ok for you both then put the past where it belongs and move on - good luck - i hope its something you can sort out xx

Thanks, yeh i think your right too! its best left alone, and is nothing compared to what some couples do to eachother! we are really close so i think telling him now would just hurt him too much, id rather just carry the burden! thankyou sooo much for replying! if theres anything you want to chat about let me know, thanks again xx