i've been cheated by my husband,after only 2 years married i found out he was dating a girl who was under age, he's been with her before we got married and i didnt know. 3 years ago we started seperation, but everytime he keeps coming back asking me to forgive him and take him back! the only problem is that he is still with his ... !!! everytime i tell him that my answer is no, but he uses our child to keep in touch with me wat should i do to get rid of him and get him out of my life??

STOP SEEING HIM....
if he comes to your house to visit your child...
let him in....just make some arrangements... for you
to not be able to see him....
just make a special arrangements with the situation...
yes...try to date and see other men...
you could try to live in a distant place....

If you dont want this slime back tell him exactly what you think of him and slam the door in his face....
Then call the police and tell them he has been with an under age girl, if things proceed he will be put on the sex offenders register, giving you the oppotunity to get rid of him forever... because as a mother you dont want a phedo around you'r child.....because that what this man is, if someone is not of age they are considerd to be a child!
Pay the fucker back!!!
good luck
xx

For God's sake don't let this man back into your life - you can let him have contact with his child but only as visitation rights - YOU DON'T SEE HIM.

Next - start seeing other people - you may well find a partner that will not cheat on you.

You need to start over, just limit contact with him and look anew.

YOU WON't REGRET IT!!!!!

twinkler

well the bottom line is this why are you still married to him? Do you still love him as it appears that might be the case and if that is so then you must think of your child first and sort that dilemia out. Go and seek help and advice from your nearest CAB were you will have to explain your situation and then you can have professional help without a cost involved. Secondly, the contact between you and your ex should be kept to a minimum as if this is what you truly want then the only reason that you need to comunicate is with any concerns or interest of your child. The very best of luck and keep your self respect there is always a solution to a problem.tpx

Did you both have this child together? - If so then your ex should be in your life for your child - if you refuse him to see he's own child then it could lead to a court case.

You need to set a day or few of the week where he can come collect he's child to spend time with the child and only the child.

You need to tell him there will NEVER be a chance with you again - if he wants to see he's child thats fine but nothing will ever be further than that - make sure when he collects he's child he does not come inside your house as he could want to try make a move on you, do not visit him in public places alone if he ever wants to 'grab a coffee' with you.

If the child is not he's then I suggest you cut contact with him. Don't answer he's calls.

first of all explain to him exactly why you don't want to be with him and in alot of detail so he sees exactly what you are feeling. Don't flirt with him at all otherwise it will give him the idea that there is a chance he will get through to you.get a new boyfriend if you are interested in anyone else to make him see that you are serious about your breakup and maybe get your new boyfriend to call your ex and ask him questions about what to get you for a present or something, it might sound stupid but it works!!!! i hate to say this but if there is no other way you are going to have to be disrespectful towards him to make him see your point but do not take it so far that he will get aggressive. also tell him that you want him and your son to have a relationship and you want to get along with him but if he carries on like this you won't be able to. I hope this helped because some of these things worked for me although it may not work for everybody!!! good luck