I don't know if I'm being silly, jealous or just over sensitive here..
I've been with my BF for a few months, but we have known each other for around 20 years. We sometimes meet up with his best mate, and his GF. I've only met this couple 5 times so far- and they seem nice enough. Except his mates' GF...I can't suss her out..I think she may fancy my BF. Each time they talk, she gets really close, as does he- not touching, but def. in each others personal space.If there's music, she usually asks him to dance.My BF says he only wants to get to know her better, as she is fairly quiet, but I feel so jealous! Went out last night, and his mate went off to talk to someone for a long time.She was sat on her own at the table(there were other people there too)- so my BF went over and sat next to her....leaving me on my own for AGES! I looked over a few times, and they were in deep conversation, and v.close.I then just turned away. I feel its ok to leave me sitting there on my own, but he doesn't want her to feel lonely...! I'm sure theres nothing going on, but am I being unreasonable to feel so jealous?? I've tried being chatty to her, but its not easy, because she is so quiet towards me.

you're not unreasonable...
if i were you...i'd probably leave the place at once...
how could he ever do that to you...he's the one who is being so unreasonable
for leaving you without someone to talk to...he worries too
much on other people when the person he is with is the one
that needed the attention....
you should go and talk to him...
good thing my man is not like him.....darn...

I think it's important for you to tell your boyfriend how he is making you feel.

At some point it doesn't matter whether or not there are something going on between them.
The point is that your boyfriend is making you feel insecure about this woman.

Unless you always feel like this when he is talking to other women, it must be caused by some kind of change in his body language when he is talking to her - we females react strongly when it comes to hidden signals even though we may not always have something specific to mention.


You need to tell your boyfriend that your are sick of feeling this way every time she's involved and you should ask him to be more aware of you. It doesn't mean he should be allowed to talk to her, but it means that he should be more careful not to become too intimate with her or make you feel like he is choosing her over you.

I myself am a very jealous person, and something similar happened to me but with my husband.He had a work friend were he gave a bit to much of his time, he was on the phone for hours with her.What i didnt do was nip it in the bud straight away by telling him i wasnt happy, so after six months of this or so i ended up blowing my top and having a verbal argument with the girl, which wasnt adult. My advice is speak to him about it sooner rathe than later, she seems as though she is getin a bit close for comfort, hope it helps.Thanx

You're not being unreasonable at all. It's natural to feel this way, and all girls - no matter how much they try to hide it, feel that harsh sting of jealousy. Here is my opinion.

Now, of course there is nothing going on; if there was, you would have noticed by now. Subtle touches, and stupid flirty grins. But there's none of that; you're safe. I have a feeling, since it is your boyfriend's best friend's girl, he will want to be seen as a good guy. He'll talk to her when she's on her own, perhaps because she is in need of advice about how her boyfriend is behaving. Try asking, casually, if she was alright; it will give you a clue about what they were discussing. Unless, of course, you want to just leave it. But if it bothers you so, I suggest you just talk to him.

As for the dancing thing, it can be just a friendly gesture, and is in this situation. Don't cut yourself off and toss them the odd cold or miserable glance. Get involved, dance with them, dance with your boyfriend's best friend, show that you're just happy they get along. It will all work out.

This is only my advice, but if you need to talk further, get in touch.

Good luck, babe.

Char' X