This question is such a cliche but how do you know when you are truely deeply in love? i have said before that i was in love with people but even at the time i doubted it, it didnt feel how its described in books and songs(there must be some truth in them) and i know now that it was only an infatuation!
What is it like when you have met the one?

I didn't really get the big picture when I was younger either. I thought that love was just a stronger sense of 'like'. Probably a big contribution to why my first marriage only lasted 21 years (and believe me, that was really stretching it!).

My current marriage has been an education for me. I have learned that there are many facets to real love.
1.) You have to be best friends with the person, and not find fault with most of the things that they do.

2.) You have to compliment them on a consistant basis. And that means for everything.

3.) You have to feel real sorrow for them if you should inadvertantly say something mean-spirited to them or about them, and you need to be able to apologize with genuine sorrow immediately. If hurting your mate doesn't hurt yourself, you aren't there.

4.) You shouldn't waste precious time together nit-picking dumb things; toothpaste lid left off; toilet seat left up; laundry not sparkling clean; dishes with a little food particle on them. If your mate is trying to help you with things, DON'T look a gift horse in the mouth! Be grateful that he is making the effort to help because he loves you, and wants to do something to make you happy. And then make sure you say 'thank you' to him for everything he does, including working hard to bring home a paycheck. Don't take him for granted!

Having said all that, before you all decide to string me up, let me allow for one big fact: I did everything CONTRARY to all that I said above, with my first husband. And it was almost consistantly a battle ground.

With my current husband, read, Sweetheart, with whom I have been for nine years, it is way different. We NEVER fight, although we have had a few minor disagreements, which have never been allowed to escalate into a fight. And because I constantly remind him that I love him, and thank him for all that he does for me, IT IS RECIPROCATED! And he helps me around the house if I get busy on other projects (ie: when I recently went back to school to get my Certified Nursing Assistant training in preparation for going to school for my Registered Nursing Degree).

I don't know; I just worked on changing my attitude between separating and divorcing my former husband, and prepared myself to be a better person and consequently a better companion for my next spouse, since I had no doubt that I would find someone who was special for me.

But our love story has been published, and reads like a fairy tale. And that's the truth.

Good luck.

ah, the eternal question!

I ask myself the same thing. Im pretty sure I want to spend the rest of my life with my bf (get married, have kids etc.) but how do you know its the real thing and that theres no-one better?!

I am not sure there is a way of telling! If hes Mr Right-Now stick with it while you are happy and he may turn into Mr Right!

I've been with my bf for 3 years. We've grown up together, known him since I was 5!
I've had previous relationships but this one is different. I just get this feeling...I can't even explain it.
I too doubted if anyone could be truly in love and how you knew but once you've got him you'll know. xx

I have been on this planet for 47 years - so,old enough to be your mum.
I don't look my age, nor do I act 47.
Last year, after 15 years of dedicating my life to my children,I mat a great guy. He had never been a parent, nor been married, yet, he is a fabulous man.
I knew he was mine the first night I met him.
He proposed 3 months later - it would have been earlier if he had known I was OK about getting married.
We don't argue, but we do have a passionate love life.
We get on.
We match in our opinions.
We really respect each other.

Dump the ... You will be OK, you are worth more.
take good care of yourself
CT