I love to please my wife, but she is too sensitive. She does not let me stimulate her nipples or clitoris. I have only brought her to orgasm once, and she won't let me do it again.

Does anyone have any tips to maybe loosen her up? Some sort of games to play? Something so she doesn't take things too seriously. Or maybe make thinks less sensitive.

Oh, and as far as a g-spot orgasm is concerned, she just won't let it happen. She thinks she is going to pee, and tells me to stop. I assure her that she just needs to relax and let things happen, but she doesn't listen.

Thanks

hi rich
you sound like a fab guy - glad you are not the 'runnig' type as quite a lot men would; i must say i agree with the replies you got from the other guys/galls try the lot and let us now of how you got on
best wishes
belladonna
p.s. did your wife had a strickt/catholic upbringing?sometimes this can leave people with a lot of 'hung ups'

When she claims she is going to pee, gentally stop and wait for a few minutes and then start again. When me and my boyfriend have sex and it makes me need a wee he pulls out for a few minutes and then the wee goes.

hope i was some help
xx

look I get to the point.
My man always gives me a massage, than starts caressing my back, kissing, little kisses along my spine, going down to my sex from behind without insisting, coming to kiss me some times, than going again down to kiss me all over, and touching finally with tenderness my clit from behind, without spreading me like a peach. He keeps going like this because it excites hem also.
When he feels I'm ready he stands up and come close to me and offers himself for an oral prelude. And this excites me.
Than i turn on my back and let him caress my nipples and after kiss them and suck them. whe I feel I can't stand it anymore he starts touching gently my g spot and after that we start doing it for real.
Don't rush. This is the key. Starting to pump right away is painfull. Do it slow make her desire you take her more firmly. We wemen like this a lot. Right?
hope this helps. And sorry for being dso direct and unvail my privacy. But to me it seems you need some real life example. This was mine.

I suggest you try first a small massage , caressing her with the fingertips along the back, making her relax. gently touch her clitoris from behind while she leans to get the massage.
As for the g spot try to touch it tenderly, not hard, just touch it slow and tender.
Her brests touch with care, the nipples are sensitive to us all and you need to be very delicate.
you will know when she's ready notticing the lubrification of her sex.
Just try.
I am a woman that gets orgasm every time but with tenderness.

you write that she doesnt let you "stimulate her nipples or clitoris".
that need not to be a sign of being too sentitive. sometimes my nipples and clitoris also hurt. i dont know why, but on some days they seem to be in a bad mood . than it is no pleasure, of course.
but you also write that she has got this feelings every time you try to do this. well, thats a problem. maybe you should be very gentle to her. try to stimulate her with your tongur instead of your fingers. thats softer and doesnt hurt (most of the time). and if she says, that it hurt, tha stop and do not go on. otherwise she wont trust you any more and that's most important.

in the whole: be soft and slow, ask her, what you should do, what she likes ans what you absolutely should not do.
most important: TALK to her about your problem, be PATIENT and dont give her the feeling of being PRESSURED

She will not complain if you use this on her, its from the natural contours range and hits the G spot EVERY time

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Maybe for the Gspot thing, try going to the bath or shower where it will be ok if she DOES pee?

Stop pressurising her, just go slowly and encourage her to want to orgasm - as much as you love her, this sort of expectation can be very inhbiting!

Good luck though.

A female orgasm can be a frightening thing! She needs to relax (can she have alcohol) if not get a big bubbly bath going and treat her like a goddess. You are fantastic to want to please her, but it is a turn-off to be expected to 'perform' every time. Have sex to feel close and connected..cumming every time might not be her thing(it isn't mine).If you are treating her body like a machine, push that, tweak this flick them..that is soo unsexy! Take your foot off the gas and sloooow things into being fun & loving and not a competition
H.

Hi dcrich, have you tried speaking to your wife to see if there is anything bothering her? I used to be the same with my ex if there was tension between us or if I was really worried about something. Try some sensual stroking that doesn't lead to sex, just to relax her. Women take a long time usually to get aroused so if you just dive in for her breasts or clitoris without first making sure she is fully truned on, you're likely to get no response or a negative one.
Find out what she likes and what she wants you to do to her. Some women like erotic fiction or movies to get them in the mood. Don't pressurise her though, take things at her own pace.

As for the urge to pee thing, I've heard women who 'squirt' get the same feeling. Squirting is the female equivalent of the male ejaculation. Reassure her that it is perfectly natural for her to have these urges, find some literature on it for her to read. Encourage her to visit the GP to make sure there's nothing else going on first though.

Hope this helps.

Hi there,

I read about your woman being ashamed of being touched in the g spot part.She has nothing to worry about as when the g spot is stimulated,the effect produced is the feeling of weeing and it's totally normal but you don't wee in fact.It's like a female ejaculation as previously said.So you should congratulate her and reassure her as if she feels this kind of sensation it means she's on the right track to orgasm or pleasure.tell her it's better to feel this sensation that to feel nothing at all.

but how do you know, that you really won't pee? when i've got the feeling that i have to pee, i always want to stop and we try something else. how can you decide between peeing and an ejaculation? and how embarrassing is it, when you really pee?
or should i go to toilette before having sex to be sure that i must not urinate? how are you able to decide?

always go to the loo b4 sex, if u feel the need to wee during sex it isnt wee, its female ejaculation, a huge contravertial topic but a fantastic orgasm and usually multiple, dont be scared, get a towel and enjoy!!!