me and my boyfriend are together three years now and i am his first sexual partner.

i got pregnant a year later.. and this was only our third time having sex.

the thing is, he has never really been able to keep an erection.. sometimes he can and its great.. but its never too long. he gets very annoyed when he loses it but i think he thinks too much that he may lose it every time we have sex....

its gotten to the point where we never really have sex, once every two months maybe.. and its really strange because hes only just turned 23..

theres been tears many a time on my part as to why he wont have sex.. hes definietely not gay..
but finally it came out about two months ago.. that sex makes him sort of squeamish.... he doesnt know how to explain it but assures me that when we do have sex he really does enjoy it.he really gets into it an suggests things to whereas before he wouldve been shy so that isnt the problem anymore
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but he cant tell me exactly why.. he doesnt like porn or anything like that..it makes him uncomfortable. so its just a sex thing altogether...if we're having foreplay...his boxers have to be on.. i cant use my hands when hes naked...

can anyone give me any advic on this.. im a young girl an ive had long term sexual partners before him and its been great.. i was usually very conifdent with then... hes definitely the one im spendin my life with... but its been three years now... and i want it more and more from him..
everythign is amazin apart from the sex..which is such a shame because hes so sexy ,so many girls are attracted to him..hes such a rugged handsome bloke..an i thought when we started goin out that the sex would be great...

im not sure what to do anymore

He needs treatment. Start with herb supplements such as Extagen or other modern and safe pills.

Hi,

I have been with my bloke for 8 years and we are very on and off in the bedroom, but it is mainly him that puts it off.

so one day we sat down and talked, i found out he hates being naked and he can not stand the look of any nakedness or limited clothing. So we worked together and started looking a clothing that he liked, and thing that turn him on, now we are all on, and I am even preg with his twins.

We were doing and still do alot of different thing ie we hardly ever use the bed as our base point, he finds it to hard to cope with, our faviourte is bathroom, or kitchen, as they are so far away from norm, we wear cloths like tight body hugging lycra so he is naked but covered, (you can get thing with suitably placed holes, and I have a few toys so does he, this way we play with each other and turn each other on without intercourse, hense our foreplay has been known to last hours and then the final thing is soooooo much better that he now begs for more.

His toys are thigs like vibrating ... rings etc not penertrating things, he theirfore gets alot of added sencations which he was lacking in, and if he penetrates me with the rings on it enhances it for me as well,

Maybe he had a strict upbringing and he feel's ashamed about sex. If this is the case then you need to remind him how much you love him and how lovemaking is a natural way for two people to express their love, it's something that humans have done for thousands of years! Maybe you could try help him understand that sex and lovemaking can be two different things and that it's lovemaking you want to do with him.

It could be more serious and maybe he experienced some kind of abuse when he was younger, this will be difficult for him to talk about.

Whatever the reason is, try getting him to talk with you about what's on his mind. He maybe just had a bad experience with a girl and it's scarred him.

for your reply..
i thought someone would come back with maybe it was abuse

but i no its definitely none of the above.

hes never even tried to be with another girl..hes never had a serious girlfriend until me.. but he has dated..

we do have sex....but very rarely an when i suggest it, he says back playfully...no!! i feel dmelly after work.. or hes tired..

all the excuses the women should have!lol..

i dont knwo if this will ever resolve...theres no fear of breakin up.. that wont happen... hes happy the way the six is..or in this case isnt...

but even though im not goin to end it with him... im 20... should my sex life end before it really begins?