your lucky to have it this many times,i dont get it that much in a week, wish sex was more frequent, but there is other things in life then sex ,like a good nights sleep! it would be nice to be able to have it as often as that!!! im normally to tired or he sleeps on sofa. beds normally empty except on odd ocassions. other then that i sleep alone.

Hi I am just a bit curious as to how often me and my husband should be having sex?We normally do have sex at least 4-5 times per week.Is this the norm?

In one of my many books on sex I read that the average couple who have been together for 10 yrs get down to it once a week. Those in a 20 year relationship get it on about once a fortnight. I thought this was quite interesting. As for me, I've been with my husband for 19 yrs and recently he's not interested at all. So I'm getting plenty elsewhere with someone much younger. Great!

I envy you and your husband.

When it comes (no pun intended) to sexual frequency there is no "normal". To paraphase Forest Gump's mama "Normal is what normal does."

Didn't someone famous say something like "You can never have too much money or too much sex"?

As long as you both are healthy and are enjoying it, 4-5 times a week sounds perfect and healthy.

Consider the benefits that frequent sex and love making provide for a couple:

*regular form of mild exercise
*reduce or eliminate painful menstration
*increased pelvic muscle tone for her (as long as she includes Kegels before and during sex) this increases orgasmic pleasure and ability reduces the likehood of bladder problems
*increase brain production of happy chemicals(endorphines) and a reduction in depression
*increases production of emotional bonding chemicals (especially when forplay regularly includes female breast stimulation and her orgasming)
*reduces his likelyhood of developing an enlarged prostrate (especially when male prostrate massage is a regular part of the couples forplay)
*some studies show that frequent sex with a committed partner (marriage) may actually increase intellegence
*greater emotional connections

A recent book shares a couples experience of commiting to having sex for 100 days straight. The idea came from the author's wife. He is a journalist and made a diary of sorts. What surprised both he and his wife was how close they grew emotionally from the experience.

They talk about how with kids and work what a challenge it was to have sex every day for 100 days.

I think your practice 4-5 days a week is ideal as is allows the two of you a day or two to rest as needed.

Your frequent sex activity will keep you both healthy and vigorous in many different ways. However to stay physcially healthy and keep everything running smoothly between the sheets besure and take a good multivitamin and eat a healthy diet (lots of green veggies and low in sugar-this includes pasta, rice and grains).

If you want to know more ways to increase your sexual health and pleasure by diet send me a PM for more info.

your lucky to have it this many times,i dont get it that much in a week, wish sex was more frequent, but there is other things in life then sex ,like a good nights sleep! it would be nice to be able to have it as often as that!!! im normally to tired or he sleeps on sofa. beds normally empty except on odd ocassions. other then that i sleep alone.

My wife and I have sex once a month... I am at the end of the rope and I am starting to resent her for the lack of sex drive.

You should rejoice, not question, that you can enjoy the togetherness of something that is both free and gratifying as often as you do. There is not a lot left in this world that can measure up to that!

Have sex as much as you want as for tightness in relation to frequency what a load of tosh. Just do pelvic floor muscles. You are meant to pass babies through there so its fantastic for stretching and then reverting back to size. Orgasms tighten the vaginal walls.

I wish I had it that much. Once a bloomin month seems to be all my partner is up for. Note to self, get a toy boy!!!

It's not good to think about the abnormality of ur sex. but it shows ur intimacy with ur mate n in return also. So kindle up ur nights with hot sizzling moans! don't worry about loosing tightness of vagina!

I wouldn't worry yourself with what's "normal" and what isn't. Just do what feels right for you both. Some couples have it as often as you, some just a couple of times a week and some less often.

Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing or what you "should" be doing and just enjoy your sex life!

ITS NOT QUITE NORMAL...

i guess u r too horny if u ask me hav it twice or once a week atleast.. control or ur vagina will not be tight...

No such thing, surely. I was in a long term relationship with my ex. Towards the end, after a very passionate start, we were having sex just once a month, if I was lucky. This destroyed our relationship! Im with someone new now, and getting it much more frequently, thank goodness. I think I read somewhere that the national average is twice a week, but that just leaves me wanting more!!!

If you're worried about tightness - kegel exercises are the answer.