i think thats a good idea tie him up but how can u do that without any bed posts???

I'm a guy 32 years old married for 7 years now and have been with my wife (age:29) for 10 years in total and have a two year old beautifull girl. Problem is that sex is little. Furthermore I believe that my wife is not even bothered in making an effort. We have sex 4-5 times each month. It seems she is always sick or tired or feels pressured or just simply can't be bothered. The sick part though I believe is that is her attempt to get attention, her father has been through quite a lot and I really believe she likes feeling that people feel sorry for her. This is probably a way of getting attention cause we've been to doctors many many times and all we got was "due to stress". Stress for what though??? she is home taking care of housework and baby all day, not that this is not a full time job but still is far easier that an actual full time job, wakes up at 9-10 and cooking once a week. We even have a lady that does all "heavy cleaning" and irononing once a week.
Anyway, the problem is that sex is really not existent. I do love this woman a lot. I have never loved anybody like these but feel that she is not responding to my love. Does she have no need for affection ???
The thought of looking for a call girl has crossed my mind but I refuse to jeopardize my family for a ... What I need is a permanent solution. When I ask for sex my wife says she is pressured and guess what, no sex. I have really tried everything. Get away weekends at 5 star hotels, cialis to be able to go 3 times in a row, trying not to upset her in ANY way, still nothing. Sex is probably less. Any suggestions ?

hey dude, call girls are the best, and the answa no commitments no bull crap afterwards if you know what I mean?

Hello, I think the problem may be she does not like having sex with you my friend so try making it a little more of a climatic experiance for her, no offence ment as many men have the wrong view of whats actualy going on with their women. Try getting a little information about her true feelings about sex with you, could it be better asked her has she a fantasy ect ect?

You sound like a wonderful and loving husband.

It sounds as if she may be having low self image issues.

Is she doing anything that she enjoys doing that will build her self esteem? Like crafts or scrapbooking, getting together with girl friends and such.

She may feel incomplete and just feel like a baby tender and a sex provider.

It sounds like you are doing your best at showing your love but is it in a way that connects withe her?

Get a book called the Five Love languages. Learn her to speak her love language and see it that helps.

If you think she may be disconnected from her sexuality send me a PM and I will direct you to a diet and nutrition program that can get her reconnected to her sexual desire and interest in sex with you.

Hey there.

Well im having the same problem with my prtner. Weve been together for over a year now and things were great at first. Since he went on some tablets for high blood pressure his interset in sex has totally dissapeard. I told him to go to the dcotor and get this sorted but he did and the doc said its not the tabs, even tho ive read up on them and it can cause impotence. Its been going on since August now and whenever i mention it, i get told that im nagging and i should be patient. We have sex twice a month, if that. I know he's happy in every other way but i just cant get him close any more. Its really frustrating and it hurts. I dont even think its about the sex any more, its the simple fact that hes not doing anything about it and i wanna be close to him again.

So hunny, your not on your own. I know how frustrating this is and you sometimes feel your at a loose end because you dont want to keep nagging, but, we all have needs. You can only be patient for so long!

x

hi troubled
i had similar problem, i think that i'm quite highly sexed person and i feel that i need sex on regular i.e. 3-4 times a week basis, but my hubby -well almost ex-hubby was not interested, i tried everything and after 6 months i just had enough and we had a 'blazing' row during which he accused me of being selfish?! anyway after 3 years of high effords on my side i gave up and we are now separated [after 20 years together!]
- i've got a new bf now, who like me enjoys sex immesly, which is great!
hope you'll not get to this stage
if anything else doesn't work, just show your wife these replies and see what she will say
keep us posted and best wishes
belladonna

hi there i too dont get any sex my husband has gone right off it,i do have a very high sex drive but its not like he has to do much ,all he has to do is just lay back and enjoy.your luky love i havnt had it in months and we have been married a year next month.i do realy love him but its doing my head in as i have tried everything,the sexy underwear toys , but at last i asked him to go to the doctors and they have gave him something to take so we will see what happens,maybe you should buy her something sexy.

ask if if you can tie him to the bed and make mad passionate love to him, least that way he cant say no and get away, i too have a high sex drive which im haveing to control as my boyfriend is normally to tired, and says it gets like a chore if its every day and better if its left for a day or so. If i could id have it every day just about.

i think thats a good idea tie him up but how can u do that without any bed posts???