I have been married for nearly 7 years, we have 3 young children.

My husband is a lovely man, wonderful father and husband, I couldn't ask for more. He adores me and always wants us to be intimate but I do not want to have sex, I am recently questioning myself, do I not fancy him or do I have no libido???

I just do not feel that way towards him, there is no spark. I love him adn we are best friends but the thought of us having sex is abit strange. When we do do it which is not very often (its been about 6 weeks now) I usually have to have a few glasses of wine, I feel awful admiting that.

He is not an ugly man or anything but I just don't feel that way towards him now I don't think.

Is this just my libido or is our marriage doomed? My poor husband deserves better than this, he wants us to be intimate but I push him away. He says he will never cheat but he wants us to be close. Its been like this for about 3 years.

What you describe is not that uncommon. You and your husband deserve an active and satisfying love life.

Your posting here shows your desire to make things better. The good news is you can and fairly easily.

You said it has been about 3 years that its been like this. What changed 3 years ago?

Are you using the Pill or other form of homonal contraception?

Answer those questions to start with.

i have been there was married 19 years, at bed time i would make excuses to get out of sex.i just did not want it with him .in the end we split due to him cheating.it was when i was single i realised i did not love him i only cared about him .i thik that had a a lot to do with my feelings towards sex. i also have 3 children.now tables have turned, iam with a new bf now he dont want sex . alam bells are ringing lol