I am with my girlfriend now for almost a year. When got together our sex life was wonderful. She was amazingly open and adventurous. We had sex at least once a day though this only lasted a couple of months. Now I feel like I'm lucky if we make love at least once a month. We have grown a lot in our relationship and are looking to move forward. It is difficult sometimes to talk to her now about sex because I feel like I'm sounding like a scratched record and she often gets upset. I do my best to approach the subject in a warm caring manner. She has accepted that she has little or no desire to have sex. She has implied that she wants to get married. I cannot commit to her if I know that that esential part of our relationship will not exist. I feel like I am living with a glorified housemate. I believe that sex is a crucial element to any relationship. Why would I marry someone if this werent to happen? I am a man I have a sex drive and almost always feel "In the Mood". I accept that women dont always feel the same and I am willing to be patient and express love in other ways, but I'm getting desperate. I feel this will be the end and some decisions wil have to be made. I do accept the fact that I may be an utterly crap lover, (well they're some of the things that pass through one's mind!). Is it normal to have a relationship without sex? I dont think I can do it. What can be done?

Hi,
Im sorry I have no advise for you really. But I do want you to know you are not the only one out there that is having such a hard time with the same thing.
Today I had a chat with my Boyfriend. He has known prior to this that I really think our 'lack of love-making' is a real problem for me. Its not hard to get him physically ready, for for some reason his brain (the one on the shoulders) wont let the other take charge. Today I let him know 'If things dont change I cant stay in this relationship, even though I love you' He told me he didn't want to change... then asked 'how is once a week sound to you?' Guess its better than once a month! but still...
Again, Im sorry its not really advise, Ive been trying to come up woth something, and after several post here, have still come up empty handed. Ill be watching your post to...Maybe we'll be able to get help together.