has anyone else gone off sex? im just not bothered about it anymore,my partner is 12 years younger than me and very sexy,but its like i cant see the point even though when we do have sex its good and im glad ive done it,the urge has gone,my partner hasnt said anything but has stopped making advances,i usually make the 1st move because i feel its not fair on him.i am 40 with 5 kids and on hormone patches for heavy bleeding which has slowed down now,anyone got any advice or having same problems?

Many reasons, as you probably know, stress, ilnness etc, if you can rule these out then you may have to think of the possibility that your partner just doen't do it for you anymore. The only time i have gone off sex is when this happenend, i didn't realise at first cause i still thought he was attractive but i didn't want him like i used to. I left in the end, as it wasn't fair to stay when he could find a partner who did want him. Maybe even though you think he is sexy that is because you can see good looks and appreciate them, as we all can, but that is different to wanting someone sexually. Talk to relate, alone, to try and find out if this is the case and go to the doctor just in case you are ill.

Everyone's interest in sex changes over time, sometimes your libido can be up, sometimes it can be down. If you've not had an interest for a long time maybe you need to think about taking action: are you and your partner spending enough time alone together (not just for sex)? You say you've got 5 kids so it's not so easy to arrange but maybe you could try and get away for a weekend with your partner, just the two of you and rediscover each other.