Okay so I have never asked for sex advice, so feeling weird but hopeful, since I have seen how much people can help. Alright here goes...

Erm I dont have a issue in giving head, quite like it actually, but I feel really uncomfortable letting my bf go down on me.

In my past relationships I always went down on my bf, but if he tried, I would just pull him back up before he even gets there. Did that with both of them (had only 2 serious relationships)...even if they would talk about it, and ask me to let them go down on me, I would agree but my body would just react and even is his hand was near there, I would move it.

I am now doing the same thing with my current bf. It not that I dont want them too, I do because I have always fanticised about it, and thinking about it gets me slightly wet sometimes (there is something else I should add here in short, got very very drunk in jan, sad about ex, with a work colleague- girl, who I guess liked me, a lot, and showed it in every way possible, so before I knew it she was on top of me kissing me etc etc, she actually did go down on me, now the thing is that even with her, I persisted so much lol, even though I was bloody drunk, not that she took no for an answer and lets say like this, I am so glad she did..feel embarrased about admitting it though).

Anyways back to the point, since then, I have wanted oral sex even more but I cant help but just react to it by stopping him,,, what is the matter with me?? I really really really do want him to, and I love it when he even talks about it, though I hardly ever admit it, but when it comes to, my body reacts and I end up stopping him. See I have lots of questions about this:

1)firstly I am not sure if he really likes giving women head- i mean he hasnt to any of his previous gf or the girls he has been with. So I am wondering, whether he wants to do it, because he feels like he has to somehow? I dont because maybe he feels guilty cus I give him pleasure?? or because he wants to make me wet enough for sex??

2)I am not sure whether in general, men actually like giving head, do they? I mean do they find it disguisting like because we have our you know monthly things,,because I dont want him to do something that he finds or thinks is revolting?

3)and see if the thought of it gets me wet, then it kinda means that I could end up I guess coming if he is actually doing this, and I am really embarrased when I think about it,because what if it stinks or if he doesnt like it?

4) and lastly, I do actually want him to lick me deep inside with his tongue, but again scared that if he stops because he can taste it, when I nearly there, then I feel so humiliated, oh god am i making sense? do men like to taste it, do they taste it,,, why they like it, why they dont like it,,,

Please help !!!!

p.s I am sorry this is way too long but I have lots to ask

1.Yes he wants to.
2.Yes we do.
3.The wetter the better
4.We love the taste
Play with yourself then put your fingers in his mouth.
Sit on his face and do the moves girl,he'l love it.Give him a bj at same time.

well im 16 and hadnt had oral untill last weekend, and let me tell you this. its fukin brilliant!!!! lol sosz,
i really dint wana do tht whn i 1st met my bf but thn i gave him oral and wanted him to give me oral but i was scared and i have issues with my apperaence (even though i got nuffin 2 worry about) but i had all the same things you wrote goin thru my head. wht if he dint like it ect and all tht thn he did it and it was just awesome and i really liked it so i think you just have to get over your fear! if you cant get over you fear try hypnotherapy (it might work)

good luck hope this helps

freyaaa xx

had to laugh about the bondage bit- might work though!! lol but just a thought - have a few drinks - not enough to be legless - just relaxed and in the mood for fun and maybe ask him to give you a massage to really relax you....you already know now that you are going to enjoy it so thats one problem out of the way and ive never heard a fella yet say anything but good stuff about oral sex - they love it! as for taste as long as you are healthy and shower regularly theres not going to be anything wrong with the taste of you so stop stressing and have fun xx

Hey Gylnda,

thank you for replying, I really do appreciate all the advice.

I guess I do tend to think too much into things, cant help it, really like this guy, dont want anything to go wrong, atleast from my side...

massage sounds so good, muscles are killing me at the moment- stupid exams lol, so I think I will actually try that, two targets- relaxation and pleasure...one more q if i may lol...
erm isnt it embarrasing though if you,,,you know, sort of cum while he is still doing oral on you?/

It sounds like you need to be tied up.

if you dont want to buy bondage stuff just use scarfs or belts or somthing long and rope like.

as for the period thing he knows that happens (I am a man), i find it intresting and clever that a body can rejuvonate its self like that, rather than gross.

Lol, rejuvonate, thats one way that I have never looked at it... . Bondage, god, yeah well that might actually have to be the option, I guess.

Mind me asking if you like going down on a girl, and if there is anything that bothers u about it?
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