I am in a serious relationship with a man I have been dating for a long time. We are discussing marriage and I am very happy with that idea. There is just one thing that has been bothering me about your relationship and that is the SEX. It is just not good, but there were times when we were in college that the sex was great and lasted a long time. Now it is so short, and sometimes I feel like I wasn't even a part of it. My boyfriend loves to have sex and we get in fights because I don't want to do it everyday like he does. Why would I, its not interesting or enjoyable for me. I don't know how to tell him this or bring it up with out hurting his feelings. I know how sensitive men are whe you talk about their manhood and sexual ability.

Basically, to put all of the detail out there so I get good fully informed responses, he is not well endowed, but i don't think that is the point. If the sex could last longer then two minutes, it coud work out for both of us no matter how big he is. It is just that it ends so quickly I don't even have time to get started. Maybe once every five times I enjoy myself and it will last a few more minutes, but I don't remember the last time I have had an orgasm.

Also, how do I ask him to have more foreplay so i can be more involved and warmed up when we start the penetration part of sex? He doesn't do that at all and when he does it seems laxy and like he is uninterested. He doesn't seem like he is trying, just trying to get it over with to get to his part. I know this sounds bad but I love him and really want to make this work. If everything else is good, the sex must be fixable, right? Well, I hope so. I just don't know how to tell him all of this with out him getting upset, hurt or mad.

Lastly, does he need to go to the doctor to get some sort of medicine so he can last longer? How come he could last much much longer only a few years ago? He is only 30, is ED and age thing or is this common?

Please let me know what you think.

Thanks.

Advise him to try Extagen. It is just a supplement so you don't need to speak with him about doctor.

Hey...
Well...you could try wearng some realli sexy underwear and taking control..that way u have complete control over how much oral sex and how long it goes on for..
I was kinda havin this problem too ages ago...
And as im not the most confident person...i hate my body ect...
Some times i will text my partner and tell him exactly what is going to happen when he gets in..and when he comes home ill be waiting and carry oyt exactly what i said..this got him realli excited and it went on for hours and was the most amazin time ever..
Whilst ur in control...and u want pleasure too..dont expect him to know what u want so tell him and push him in the right direction...
Hope it goes ok hun
w/b brooke n bump xx