So confused please help me

hi everyone

i went to see a ps about 2 weeks ago and was so excited when i left. hubby a bit grumpy about the whole thing cos he is moaning about the money (and i COMPLETELY understand his concern) so after much tossing and turning i decide not to have the BA. so i cancel the loan etc and 2 weeks later everyday i wish i hadn't. i bought some great push up bras but that has not helped me at all. they even have GEL in them.................my boobs look great in a bra but then take it off and "where'd they go?" so i see one of my mates in gym this morning and she tells me her one mate had a BA with the same surgeon i went to see and how great they look, she is super happy blah blah blah. one of my concerns was having "water balloons" on my chest and when i lie down my boobs dont move. i want them to look natural. so i asked my mate and she said no this girls boobs look great they actually look very natural. so now i'm so confused again. i phone the surgeons nurse and ask if the boobs need replacing after 10 years or ever and she says no unless you want them bigger or you are not happy. so thats good cos i was also worried about that (forgot to ask the surgeon in the excitement of seeing the implants in my bra ) my hubby says he's happy for me to have them done and its no worries if i do BUT i have 3 kids and i'm just so worried that i'm being selfish. i feel so selfish but i HATE my boobs, i hate looking in the mirror naked. i get all irritated when i do but then i feel so selfish again. do you see my turmoil? i know this is only a decision i can make but please could someone give me some advice???

thanks ladies.....................

Same here

im the same dont get me wrong we can afford it but then sometimes i think 4 k ? i could put it in bank for the kids or buy a well needed kitchen or do the loft but the thing is our kids dont want for nothing and urs prob the same to but why go on feeling crap about it when we can do something about it and make us happy .i put it off for years feeling i was selfish but ther comes a time when u just get sooooo down and nothing is gonna stop u getting them done ..go for it i cant wait x

I soooo know what you mean!

Im in exactly the same boat! I booked mine a while ago then worried myself sick about the whole what if i die and leave behind hubby and 2 kids thing all for boobs! So i cancelled it. Then like you regretted it, it's something that doesnt go away, something you still have to live with everday and i think only other people like us can really understand that. So ive decided to go for it again but havent got a date yet.
Dont feel selfish about it, im sure you'll be a more chilled out confident person when its done.
Go for it! x

Me too

I feel exactly the same as you, I have 2 kids and so scared about the operation and not waking up for pure vanity, but I desperatly want to feel like a real woman with breasts! I am having anatomicals (tear drop) which give a very natural shape the surgeon is an expert in them he is called Mr Turton from Leeds and I would receommend looking into that shape if you want a natural look (I know alot of people are not keen on them on this forum but it depends on the expertise of your surgeon) I have booked mine for 16th Feb aaaahhhh so scared but just trying to visulise wearing a Bikini and looking nice for the first time! x

Exactly my feeling...

but i am having it on saturday! yikes!!!

i have 2 children and am feeling so selfish that this money could be spent on a family holiday or toys ect, ect ect, and that i am putting my life at risk and could leve them without a mum just because i want nice boobs!

my mum and hubby have been great. they explained how i do absolutly everything for my kids and they want for nothing, i have always put them first and tha if i am a happier more confident person it will be of benefit to them. as for the fear of dyng under ga... this still scares me to death and i am sure i will be in tear s when i leave them sat morning but i am a fit healthy person and millions of ga's are carried out every day with no problem.

so... i am going for it, and only 2 days left!!!!!

good luck with your decision and i am sure our feelings are only natural mother instincts xxx

Its natural....

to feel all these things. You need to do loads of research I think if youre the type to worry. Only then can you make an informed chioce about whats best for you. I think the money part is irrelevant we get loans for cars, holidays etc but they dont last forever and dont give you inner confidence do they? I was completley the same as you and had my BA yesterday and am really happy i finally did it. I also had 'bad mum, wife,selfish' doubts but that just shows youre a good person that cares about your family. Do your research though, you may find it isnt for you once you have a deep knowledge of what it entails and will it achieve what you want realistically.
Hope this helps.

A xx

Your decision

Hey hun, sounds like it's what you want and you've obviously thought long and hard about it. it's totally normal to get cold feet!!
let us know what you decide xx

Thanks

for all the encouragement. i'm glad these feelings are normal!! was starting to feel like the most indecisive person around.

I've done HEAPS of research and read just about every website i can find, phoned the Australian Board of Plastic Surgeons (my ps is registered with them) and looked at SO many before and after pics its scary. Because i cant drive for 2 weeks after having them done i can only have them in the next school holidays (kids went back yesterday) so that'll be the first week of April and my 2nd appointment will have to be about 2 weeks before that so i have another 2mths to make a definite decision but i think i'm going to go for it. ps said i'm a small B and i know my B's don't fit properly and since i've lost a bit of weight i cup my boobs in my hands and they are definitely smaller. HOW ANNOYING!!!
i will put up pics once they're done

oh by the way my mum (she's a natural DD) says i mustn't do it (she is totally against it) i think that also doesnt help my confusion. but she clearly doesn't know what its like to walk around and see 12yr olds with boobs bigger than mine!!! i feel like a "lady guy"

thanks again its really hard talking to ppl with DD+ boobs they think your insane...............i come from a family of ladies with DD+ my aunty had a reduction!!!