Hi

In the past i have always gone on about boob envy to my friends and conversation has always turned to having a boob job.

Then the more flatter chested girls have said that they want to have one but not for a while (until after kids) but now i have said i am going to have one all i hear is negativity...

It's getting me down...They keep saying, what if you dont like it, you are pretty as you are, false boobs are horrible (usually the men in the group saying this...hmmm).

It's so wierd...thankfully i have one friend who has had one and i went out with her last Friday and she really encouraged me and said it was the best thing she had ever done and i woke up the next day wishing i could just go and get it done there and then!

But today i just feel a bit down after hearing so much negativity....did you girls get the same?

Sue

Just wanted to say, I had all the negativity too, from absolutely everyone. I am 25 years old, but for some reason, suddenly everyone thought I didn't know my own mind and started trying to talk me out of it, as if I was a silly little girl with an idea in her head who would grow out of it. At the end of the day, I was having a BA because over the last few years I have lost around 3 stone in weight, and unfortunately my boobs were an A cup before so you can imagine what size they were afterwards! I wanted to look more in proportion, and more balanced. Unfortunately, most people think that anyone having 'a boob job' is having it because they want to be looked at by men, or become a glamour model, or are a 'slag' (I had all of these comments) when nothing could have been further from the truth.
Don't let it get you down. I am now 12 weeks post-op and all those people who made nasty comments are now biting their tongues because I look fantastic and my self-confidence has never been so high. I wish I had done this years ago.

Hi Sue,

I do agree alot of the negativity comes down to jealousy or insecurities that they have about themselves but honestly dont listen to them if they dont like them then tough its not their body its yours and the only person that has to like them is you.... Alot of people seem to think that we do this for attention but 9 out of 10 times it is just for us.

True friends will tell you that you deserve to be happy in your own skin and support you 100% of the way anyone who doesnt isnt worth getting upset about...
I had my B/a just over two weeks ago and my sister has not spoke to me since she kept saying that they will look so fake and making sly comments when she seen people on tv who had their boobs done and I really think she thought I would not go through with it but at the end of the day I dont regret it one bit...

Try not to let them get to you!!! ;0)

Jenny x

Jenny, that must be very uncomfortable to have your sister treat you like that. The last thing you need post op is anyone being horrible to you in anyway. I am 6 days post op and though I made the right decision and everyone is being good about it. It is only us women who actually take the plunge and know the pain and discomfort and the initial total dependancy on everyone that we go through. I almost feel apologetic, but luckily I hve not had any horrible stuff said, but I am sure I will. I was half expecting it from the M & S bra measurer when i went into town yesterday for a new sprots bra. I explained that I was not being difficult when i could not get my top off etc and the M & S assistant was very supportive.

When does the pain and stretched numbness feeling subside? :/

Its not nice and sometimes is does get to me but I have alot of support from other people which made me realise that I have nothing to be ashamed about she'll get over it eventually but in the mean time I dont see why I should try and justify myself to her...
The first few days are awful arent they when you have to rely on other people to do the slightest thing my OH was really good and never complained once..
I guess from about day 7/8 I found that I didnt bother with any paracetamol for the pain and I would say a couple of days after that I started feeling pretty much myself although lifting and holding my little boy was still uncomfortable and now I feel great still get the odd twinge but that tight horrible feeling has defiantley passed... it wont be long now and you will up and about feeling fab.

Good luck with your recovery
Jenny x

it has to be your decision. Unless there is medical reasons, they should support you. I had concern from those I chose to tell, and I'd been going about it for nearly 15 years!

I had thar many consultations with different PS that it was becoming a running joke. I am sure you want the op and have chosen your surgeons wisely, ask your friends if, they are concerned to ask you about the finer details. if they are true, they will accept your decision. If they are not then perhaps you should ask them to keep their comments to themselves as you do not need nege=ativity prior to your op.

Hope this helps

Hi

I think maybe its because i am at the start of this process...Basically, i have my first appointment on Tuesday at the Harley medical group to see a Consultant...I think once i have seen someone i can explain it to them a bit better. I think they just think i will end up with a pair which look really false...The man who said his comments is a complete ... anyway...he is going out with my friend and then is always saying to me about other girls he finds attractive...i had a go at him last night and said i find his comments offensive!! This was after his comments about my BA but you can see he is a ...

Overall though, I think my friends are just worried about me...but i wish they would just say if its going to make you happy then that's great...and hell i get so fed up wearing chicken fillets its untrue!! Last night my friend saw it showing through my top!! Thank god she told me and i put it properly in my bra! Now that wont happen with pair of lovely new boobies will it!

I have made two appointments and i am going to make a third, first with harley, second with transform and third with a guy called rajiv grover...I think that way i will get a bit more of an idea of the right way to go.

Thanks for all your support!

Sue

p.s to the girl who's sister isnt talking to you...she is very silly...you have now gone through with it and she should just be supportive of you...she is your sister and families often dont do things that we like but the thing is blood is thicker than water and so she should be there for everything and not stop talking to you...I think there may be jealousy there somehow...Maybe now she is feeling stupid and cant actually bring herself to be the one to make the first move and start talking to you again...

one word - jealousy. this is what it always boils down to, whether they're your friends or not because now they're thinking that you're going to look better than them and have bigger boobs and they naturally feel threatened to are trying to put you off.

as for the men, well i've heard mixed views but show me a man who cares about whether ... are real or fake, as long as you don't go overboard and have ridiculous porn-star breasts! my male friends say that they don't really care about what size boobs are or if they're real or fake, they just like boobs fullstop! plus if a bloke is going to be put off then he's clearly not worth the bother, not that you have to worry about this if you're reanetly married i presume.

trust the friend who's had it done, it will be the best thing you ever do for your confidence!

good luck x

my best friend wasn't very supportive, in fact she told me i'd look fat!
my ex boyfriend said he thinks it shows a lack of confidence and self esteem

but other friends have admitted that they actually wish they could have the guts to do it themselves

i think it's such a hard decision to make and very scary as well as exciting

i plan to surround myself with the friends that do support me, spend time on this forum and just remembering that it's ME that counts - not others' and their opinions... after all - i have to live with me

hope thats helps x