"Worried!! "

Hey girls,

I've got my BA booked for 28th May and got my Medical on the 10th. I'm due to pay the balance this monday and I'm starting to panic that I'm not doing the right thing!
I've hated my boobs for as long as I can remember and have wanted a boob job for years. All my family and friends know how I feel so wont be surprised to hear that I'm having it done (although I havent told everybody yet!!). Thing is I'm soooo scared that I wont like the end result! I know I don't like them now, but then this is what nature gave me, I didn't pay nearly 4k for them! If you know what I mean! I'm also worried about work as my job is fairly physical and I don't want people at work to know although dont know how I can get away with not telling them! Worried about what size to have... I'm a smallish 34B and been suggested 300cc or 340cc. Want them to look as natural as poss but dont wanna regret not going bigger! Worried about complications, worried about handing over that much cash as theres no two ways about it I will be stretching my finances to accommodate for the new assets! I've also just started seeing someone and dont know how the hell to tell him!!! lol Worried he'l hate the idea and dump me!! Just WORRIED, WORRIED, WORRIED!
However....
I know (if they look good) I will be over the moon and it will make such a difference to my life, confidence, self esteem, just everything!

Sorry to moan but would love to hear from anyone who shares/shared the same concerns, and can offer reasurance!

Thanks loads

Love Dxx

"Hi donna "

It's normal to be worried ... so let me just say, that's the same as everyone else, you are not alone in that one.

As for actually having the BA, only you know if you 'truly' want to proceed ... it is alot of money, but as I have read on here many times, (& I feel exactly the same) it was the best money I have ever spent

As for your new boyfriend, well ... what can I say other than, it's 'your' body, 'your' choice. If he thinks enough about you he'll support you

As for the size to go for ... I would suggest the 340cc under the muscle, for a more natural look ... obviously it's up to you and your surgeon ... but I reckon that would take you to around the 34D mark.

As for work, you could do what I did. My job is fairly physical, you know lifting etc included. I just said I was having some surgery done & that my surgoen told me I would need three weeks off work afterwards to recover. Why would you 'have' to tell them anymore than that ? .... To be honest, I really see it as none of anyone elses business, unless you 'choose' to tell them .... and don't worry about them thinking your boobs look huge afterwards .... I read on here only the other day, someone had gone from a B cup to something like an E, and no one at her work even noticed!!!

Anyway .... time to search your heart for some answers Donna .... I wish you all the very best in whatever you dicide to do :hug: ... Good luck

Jan x.

I had my BA 9 weeks ago. I was 34aa, had 340 unders and am now a 34D/32DD.

It is natural to have the worries you are having, but really try not to!! From my experience it has been so easy it's unreal!! I was soooo worried about the pain, what people would think etc etc.. but it's not worth it!

Because I had no boobs before I thought it would be soooo obvious after, but it's not! Unless you have them out no one really notices.

As for your new fella, if he is going to be so judgmental as to ditch you for having a boob job - do you really want to be with him?? I very much doubt he will anyway!

I've found some big women with big boobs have been a bit bitchy, but f*ck em! :P

hi hun
having my BA on 25th may. im like you keep worrying bout it all, but ive wanted it for years and ive come this far so fingers crossed. ive taken a loan out for part of the costs as managed to save a bit, but worry bout getting into debt for it, also will i be happy with the end result, complications etc. this site is a god send as there are so many happy girls, also it gives you an idea on size. im a 34a/b and i wanted to look as natural as poss, so my ps recommended 300/325 (as ive got odd sizes) to take me to a c cup.hope hes right?. i was originally not going to tell anyone as hoping they wouldnt really notice too much, but ended up telling my closest friends as wanted advice, and theyve been great. hope ive helped even if just a little bit
donna,x

Hi D,

I totally understand your situation!

I've always hated the size of my boobs too... what you got to make sure is that you would be doing the BA for yourself.
I am also in the same situation about not wanting anyone at work to notice, so i put extra padding/ fillets in my bra lol... and conviniently i gained abit of weight around my bum and has resulted to me not being able to zip up my work trousers (As i found abit funny and showed and told my collegues, considering i have been going to the gym nearly every day since the begining of this year) So if they notice anything extra on top, hopefully they'll think its part of my weight gain!

Initially i went into my consult wanting to be a B and was recomended 190CC HP! after a week i thought the same 'What if i regret not going bigger later?' So i asked the surgeon what the biggest natural size poss? there was a choice between 260CC and 300CC! So i changed it to 260CC HP on my second consult, however after that.. a week later the size was still bugging me everyday! So today on the day i thought what the heck, mights as well got for 300CC! I think with the size thing, if it is bugging you on a daily basis after you had agreed on the size, go with your gut instinc. With any good surgeon, they would not want recomend a size that will make you look un-natural, as you are you an advertisment for the level of standard of thier work. Since word of mouth/ referrals and even this forum is such a powerful tool that can affect thier reputation!

Cash wise - If you weighed out the pro's and con's and you are doing it for yourself why not? The way i see it is that if you really want it and you can strech you finances (maybe cut back on some shopping - sorry assuming you are a bad shopaholic like me) the sooner the better, as it will save you a couple more years of being insecure about your breasts (thats if you was anything like me about it)

I also started kinda 'seeing' someone and i decided about my BA before i met him and i didnt know how'd he react.. i was scared as i've had a dry spell for a couple of months lol and did not want to ruin anything. With this, i thought logically and as the relationship is quite new, it shouldnt make a difference if i had them done or not, since if i was to be with someone i would want them to be with me for me! not just how i look. (Just incase your wondering what his reponse was, he was supportive and said he couldnt wait to see them lol! I just reminded him that i wasnt going massive haha!!)

Today after my BA this is the one of the best things i have done to date. I feel so happy and i cant even remember how my breast looked before now!

I know this is long, please excuse any spelling or gramma mistakes!

L XX

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Hey hun,

I just read your post and wanted to tell you that literally I am going through the exact same thing. My BA is th 17th May and my pre-op on Tuesday next week, so its suddenly starting to feel really real!

I've been with my boyfriend for over two years so he knows whats going on and is 100% supportive, hes even coming with me to the hospital. I think if your new boyfriend is a nice person and you explain to him why you've chosen to get them done he'll totally understand. At the end of the day you've looked into this in the first place to make yourself feel better and more confident so i certainly wouldn't let a man ruin that!!
My mum could not have been more against the idea when i first told her as she's scared of surgery generally and also very much a "like what you've got" kind of person... and even she has now come round to the idea; she still isnt thrilled but understands why i need to do this.

as you said though, i am doing the same thing and really starting to worry. i'm scared that after being so excited about the procedure and paying all this money i'm going to come out and be disappointed - not like the size or the way they look. i think its probably natural to worry. the way i'm looking at it is that i know i'm not happy now... i dread bikinis, skimpy tops.... i am constantly buried under chicken fillets... its just not fun being this bothered about them all the time. i'm trying to remember that i thought alot about the decision before i even booked it, and as with you wanted a boob job for years - so we probably just need to try not to let last minute nerves get in the way!

you may think i'm mad but i haven't told anyone except for my mum and boyfriend that i'm getting this op done. my family are quite old-fashioned and i know they wouldn't really understand so for an easy life i've decided to do it this way. i genuinely believe that i'll get away with it too as i've been wearing padded bras for so many years!! i'm aiming for a D/DD, and I am a B now, but the gel bra bricks that I've been wearing permanently since about the age of 14 probably take me up to a D anyway... so the change shouldnt be too noticeable. especially not when to begin with i'm squished into a sports bra! i don't know if youve been the same, but if you have been wearing padded bras i wouldnt worry about people at work noticing.

i have struggled loads with the decision on the size, but ive been told i can even change my mind on the way to theatre so don't worry too much. i've settled on a D/DD sorta range because i don't think thatll be too big for my frame (i'm a size 8/10 but have quite broad shoulders and ribcage) and will also be big enough that in a years time i shouldnt be getting the renowned boob greed!

so yeah, i'm definitely going through the same mental torture as you, but at the moment i'm just trying to be positive. i've picked my surgeon because i trust him to do a good job... as long as you've discussed with your surgeon the look you want to achieve too, we should both be fine. if something unfortunate happens like capsular contracture then at least thats what the aftercare program is for... but i'm sure you won't need it anyway, and hey - you can always get your new bf to help you with the massage! if that doesn't bring him round to the idea then i don't know what will...

feel free to PM me anytime, and keep smiling! remember you booked it for a reason. and the chances are if we backed out now, we'd only be back in the surgeons office in a few years time

love kay xx

what lovely supportive comments xx

thank you for all those supportive comments, i really needed that im having mine in 2 weeks ...

thank you so much girls xxxxxxxxx

so so so so so so much! You're messages are lovely and have really helped like you wouldnt believe! Really appreciate them.

Will keep you posted!

Love Dxxx