The reason I'm asking this question is because my mum seems to think that I'm having my ba for the wrong reasons.

I suffer from low self esteem and my confidence is somewhere in the gutter. This is due to a past violent relationship.

I've tried to explain to my mum that the two aren't connected and that I'm not just trying to 'paper over the cracks' so to speak. Problem is, she's convinced she's right.

I've always hated my boobs even before I got myself into a bad relationship. My ba is booked and I'm determined to go ahead.

Has anyone has a breast enlargement and realised that there was a deeper problem than just the appearance of their breasts?

Thanks girls

Lou xx

My marriage ended in January and I have had low self esteem since. Convinced Im fat, ugly, unattractive, etc etc. My husband barely touched me in the last few years and I hated him seeing me naked. Just recently someone close to me made a derogatory comment about my boobs which have always been small and I just thought, that's it Im gonna get myself the best boobs in town and start to take a more positive view on my body. I have also lost the the baby weight I put on with my twins and Im starting to feel a whole lot more positive about my self image.

I know my new boobs aren't going to mend my marriage to take away any of the other negative feelings that creep up on me, but hey, Im still going to have fantastic boobs and when I look in the mirror Im going to think 'wow'. Worth it just for that I reckon.

Good luck hun. You have to go with your own gut instinct. As much as we love our mums and value their opinion, they don't always know what's best.

Georgina

Hi boogie,

I was never happy with my boobs, from being a teenager right up to the age of 39 now. I had my ba just under 4 weeks ago and my Husband has said he can`t believe the difference in me! I`m a happy, smiley person now and I`m so chuffed about how I look now, instead of hating my body/boobs.

As well as feeling like crap about my boobs and my confidence being really low, I too was with a fella when I was 16 - 23 years old who was very handy with his fists and crushed me mentally as well as physically, so I really did feel like the lowest of the low. I felt like a total nothing when I was in a relationship with him but.....going through all that crap shaped me into who I am today and perfect for the marriage I have with my Husband and on those grounds I would take every slap, punch, derogatory comment or whatever else could be thrown at me again!
My husband has totally understood my unhappiness about my boobs and has been so supportive, he paid for my ba and it`s done what I hoped it would....it`s made me happier and more confident but most of all....it`s made me feel like I`m worth something.
It`s difficult to put into words when the feelings have been `there` for so many years but hopefully you get some idea of what I`m saying?

If you have the means and the opportunity to have your ba done, go for it!! Don`t let anyone elses opinions change your mind, make your decision FOR YOU.

Good luck, I totally understand where you`re coming from and I wish you the best, whatever you decide to do.

Lise xxx

It could help you to become more confident , but at the end of the day, it will not be the answer to everything. If you wish to go ahead with a BA, by all means, do so - but do not expect it to make you life perfect because if there are other underlying problems - you may find it may not meet all your expectations.

It's a bit like losing weight. You think if you could become lighter, everything would be great - but not necessarily so.

Best wishes Lou - I hope you find the happiness you deserve xx

Hiya hon, just saw your message. I too suffered at the hands of a gobshite (strongers words needed but won't go there lol !). If you want your boobs, you get them. I've booked my BA/UL for next January and I know I WANT them done for me. If you have always hated your boobs, your ex won't have played a part in your getting you boob job. I've always disliked mine, never felt right in clothes, always wearing padded bras. Now I'm doing it and I can't wait. Nothing or no-one will make me change my mind. I'm saving like a mad thing and am looking forward to it sooo much.

Hope you find the answer you are looking for, you do whatever makes you happy hon, you deserve it for putting up with an ARSEHOLE. Treat yourself.....

Sam xx

Well I have always hated my breasts from the age of 13 when they started to develop as they didnt look right to me. I went through puberty being ashamed of my breasts and in the end my entire body. I think the negative thoughts stem off into other areas of your life. It started just wearing baggy clothes at 13 to becoming bulimic at 16 to then having zero confidence and letting so called friends and men walk all over me at 17/18. Ive had alot of body hang ups and lack of confidnece which has effected my life no end and I know me having my breast implants wont just suddenly solve all my problems but at least I solved the main one that started off the trend if you get what I mean. I know that having my breast op has made me feel so much better about myself that this will give me my inner strength back that means I can face anything.

I have told my mum that I'm not expecting a breast enlargement to be a miracle cure for past problems. I know it wont take away the bad memories but for me it's a starting block to feeling better about myself.

Lou x

i can empathise to some degree here as my OH thinks it wont sort out my lack of confidence, i have wanted a BA since i was 15yrs old, i am now 27 and they are not big enough and get me down, my OH does not understand how low i feel about them, i know its not the answer to everything but i think it will go a really long way, i think it will help your confidence from hearing others stories, i say go for it girl and all the best xxx