Hi Girls.

I've finally booked by BA but am suddenly having mixed feelings about whether I should be putting myself through this. Has anyone experienced the same?

All my life I have been incredibly unhappy with my 32aa, got teased for it, will never take my bra off infront of boyfriends or even my 5 year old niece! I have tried everything from putting on weight, trying every contraceptive pill out there to those useless herbal pills so feel this is my only option to finally feel confident. However, I suddenly got these mixed feelings of why I am putting myself through this to feel like a woman. I should feel like a woman in my head anyway and rise above it and accept who I am. Why do I have to get surgery to feel better about myself, it shouldn't be like that etc....This is what I have never asked myself but did today!

Yet we all know it isn't that easy to feel confident. I've tried to get over this feeling but can't so if anyone else has had these mixed feelings or had no confidence because of their breasts can you let me know if having the operation suddenly put everything right or do you still have issues???

Maybe it's natural to suddenly have these feelings because of the reality of surgery. I don't know!

Advice appreciated!

Thanks girls

hi lcasado

I felt exactly the same. I saw my local doctor at around your age ie 24 and couldn't believe the costs so put it aside to a dream at the back of my mind due to the hospital she recommended was so expensive and thought I was being daft despite having support from my fiancee at the time.

How we put it off - it wasn't until I was on holiday until my fiancee pointed out a rather nice looking lady with rather lovely boobs which had a scar to the underneath and the conversation has gone on for many years going back to when we saw her until I finally thought that's it and plucked up the courage to do something about it.

Hence I've booked my ba with dr Tondu in August as they recommened he could do through the nipple incision if I preffered being small busted with not much skin to play with or line between the bust. It still seems like a lifetime away due to the fact they shut end of july until mid august.

I've gone back and forth since booking it thinking have I done the right thing and I don't really want to be the gossip of work etc.

Since talking to loads of lovely ladies here I feel I'm definitely doing the right thing tho and the photos have made my mind up Shame picture trail has gone!!

When are you booked to have yours done with dr tondu? It's nice to know so many girlies are going with him

L xx

Hey girlies, just read that your going with Tondu. I had him last week and he is really nice, I was getting really fidgety waiting around and he came and said it wouldn't be long etc. Next time I saw him he was marking me up and making sure I was 100% happy with my decision. Lovely guy who listens, would recommend him to all of you and wish you all good luck. Leanne don't worry, september will come around very very quickly! xxxxx

Thanks Gabbi. For the vote of confidence with Dr Tondu. Happy healing! we are going to have to find another picture sharing website now!

Lisa x

I also very much felt and sometime still feel the way you do. I'm 40 and for the past 20 years I have hated my figure, esp my boobs or rather lack thereof. I hate shopping for bra's and whenever I got 'under the covers' with a boyfriend I'd worry that he wouldn't find my boobs - how daft we are. But it's been something that has been bugging me for so long...

Unfortunatley so many people in the past when I mentioned a boob job would tell me I'm being daft (some politely and others rather hurtful about it) and that I'm fine the way I am, that I should accept myself as I am. But you know what -not a single one of them had a chest smaller than a b or c cup - they've never ever not filled a aa cup bra, so how do they know how we feel. And even more annoying is that none of them would say they'd reduce theirs to my size when I asked them. So OK for me but not for them? And I was never confident enough to stand up to them.

needless to say I've bitten the bullet and finally booked my BA for September. I walked out of the surgeons office as though I was walking on clouds and I so so can't wait for it. Yes I do still think that the money could be better spent on so many other things, esp in current economic markets etc., and I do worry what people will think (esp at work - nearly everyone else knows about it) but this is for me and come hell or high water I'm going through with it.

I've lived for 20 years looking like a 10 year old (with a huge butt), so now I'm going to try and get the top half to match the bottom half

Meriad

PS: sorry a bit of a long post / rant, but it feels good to vent, esp because I know you all understand

Thanks so much for all of your messages.I am 24 if you wanted to know and am getting done now as everyone says they wish they had done it earlier!

You have all made me confident in my decision again. Im sure there will be more ups and downs to come. Always great to have this forum as only everyone on here understands! My friends are supportive but not all. Im not telling everyone as I believe those people who know you well understand why you are doing it so I can't be bothered to explain myself to everyone and anyone. We are all doing this for ourselves and not everyone else!

Good luck with your BAs those who are booked and your consultations. I will keep you updated with pics no doubt!

Thank you again for the good advice.

Lisa

I felt the same hun, its only natural now that its become reality. But all you have do is look at yourself in the mirror and you will remember why you are doing this. Why shouldn't you do something to make yourself happy? Go for it girl, I'm guessing you've been dreaming about it for a long time. Make it reality, you wont regret it...I haven't xx

but don't be put off - the very reason you went seeking advice etc, in the first place says you were unhappy about your breasts. This reaction, I believe, is a natural one - but don't stop now - keep positive - and push on through with the proceedings - you'll be happy once it's done - and Dr Tondu is known for having done some amazing BA's - good luck.

hi there

i have booked in with elyzea for 7th oct for lipo and 9th for ba, i am 45yrs old with x 2 girls 17 and 20. after i finaly made the decission and told them they were great. i have had a inverted nipple and small breast since pubity. i can only advise that i know personally this will make me feel alot better than hiding under the covers at night. i dont know how old you are but if you feel the way you do you can only change things for the better !!!!!!

good luck
linda xxxxxxx

p.s my hubby thinks i am having a mid life crisis lol

I had exactly the same feelings that you described.
I have wanted a ba for the past 12 YEARS.I kept have second thoughts, am i doing the right thing?
After 3 children, my boobs have never been the same, saggy is what they call it.

So, like you i bite the bullet, booked my consultation, went to it and thought, am i still doing the right thing.
Right up until my op date at Elyzea on the 12th July with Dr Tondu and then on the steps of Elyzea i felt like running away lol!

I am now only a few dayspost op,sore and stiff.

is it worth it, YES YES YES!!

Charley

im a newbie here but had to reply to this becasue i have booked my first consultation for 2 weeks time and feel completley the same!! "why am i doing this?" "do i feel that bad about my boobs?" "cant i just live with them and be happy and not spend all this money"

and thats all from booking the consultation-who knows what ill be like when/if i do actually book the surgery!!!

but you have obviously thought long and hard about this, apparantley everyone feels this way and its 'normal' you just have to know that in your mind its what you want. your absoloutley guaranteed to get nervous i think!! although like i said i can only imagine because im not at that stage.

im sure you'll be fine, have faith in yourself, your decison and your ps.

good luck hun xxxx