so sorry to read that you m/c. Thinking of u both hun & good luck for a healthy, sticky pgcy for the future

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well girls, looks like I am back on ttc.... got my bfp 2 weeks ago after 10 months ttc and I have miscarried over the weekend. DH and me really upset... we went from being so incrediably happy to utter sadness in less than 24 hours.
Still once my body has recovered we will be back on the ttc rollercoaster hoping that it wont take another 10 months.
so back here with all of you

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to hear u M/C. its the hardest thing to lose a baby. sending u big {{{hugs}}}

tc, gail xx

so sorry to read that you m/c. Thinking of u both hun & good luck for a healthy, sticky pgcy for the future

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Thanks for all your messages- it really does help. Feeling so low at the moment. I have to go into hospital tomorrow- not really sure what to expect.... but trying to be brave.
DH is so upset and wants to try again ASAP. But I think all your advice is right and i will wait one cycle, I am not sure that I am emotionally ready to try again this month anyway. The thought of having to wait another 10 months for a bfp is so heartbreaking. I had just been referred to a fertility clinic, due to irregular cycles and not sure whether to go ahead with the investigations..... just not sure what to do for the best.

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I'm so sorry to hear your news. I miscarried in January, (also began within 24 hours of finding out I was pregnant!), infact I would have been due this week and I felt a bit lost about whether to try again and whether I would ever be strong enough to cope if the same thing happened, but I decided my desire for a baby was stronger than just giving up in the end.

I have to say I think Bea is talking a lot of sense. We were told to wait one but preferably 3 cycles, we decided to wait one as didn't think age was really that on our side (I'm 32, hubby is 35 which i know isn't OLD old, but sometimes in the TTC world it feels like it!), so we waited one cycle, and I have to say it was almost a relief to have a good natural "flush out". I'm sorry if that's a bit TMI, but it wasn't like a normal period for me so it just felt like it was good to make sure everything was as back to normal as it could be.

Lo and behold, I got pregnant again the following month and am now nearly 28 weeks (touch wood all ok so far), so I hope that this might give you a bit of encouragement.
Good luck and hope you can find all the support you need from here, it was a godsend for me during my M/C.
Take care, Love N xx

I'm so sorry hon, I went through the same last week after BFP week before. I felt sad, guilty and very up and down over the following week. I've now done a repeat PG test which is negative (told to do so by EPP to check hormone levels gone) and the symptoms have subsided, so back to square one. If you want to chat please feel free to PM me. For me, I have found that talking about it and getting my feelings out in the open has really helped.

I'm in 2 minds about what to do about tcc this month, I need to decide quick though as CM definatley egg white like today (sorry if TMI!), the one positive I can take from my mc is that I now know that I ovulate and dp's wigglies are on form as we were not sure of that before.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, I hope you get a sticky BFP very soon.

Lots of love Rachel x

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Oh no, what sad news. I know how you feel as I've had two miscarriages - it is such a shock to the system. I assume you didn't need an ERPC which is better. I bet you and your DH are feeling completely devastated (although men don't always show it as I've had to find out the hard way!).

I know you may not want to hear this but I almost feel obliged to tell you (and whether you listen is entirely up to you). I know lots of people have been told not to wait for natural AF by their doc but I have researched this and sought advice of various specialists and nurses who work in Early Pg Unit (due to having 2 and having high chance of m/c anyway) and they have all said the same, which is to wait to have one natural cycle before TTC again - I've heard some people say 3 but I have read that one is better than none. The reason is that your hormones are still high (and lining of the womb is not always shed straight away) so it's best to wait for old lining/blood to come away and for hormones to get back to normal. If you don't do this, you are apparently at a higher risk of miscarriage. I know there are lots of people who have got pg straight after m/c without waiting for one cycle and all has been okay but there are also some where it has not worked out because the risks are higher. It is a decision for you to make with your DH as you know your body better than anyone but a successful pg is all to do with correct hormone levels initially and sustaining that baby is much the same (i.e estrogen/pogesterone/LH/FSH etc etc).

Sorry, I won't go on about it anymore but I would hate for you to have to go through this again, it unfortunately does not get easier, to be honest I think the second m/c was harder to deal with than the first - prob cus I was 11wks pg. It isn't easy no matter how far along you are.

Here's to a healthy baby for you very soon. I'm sure it will happen, just think positive.

Take care and big hugs
Bea x

that this has happened, take care of yourself and hopefully your bfp will happen real soon, i know of a few people who got pregnant quickly after a miscarriage, hopefully you will be one of them.

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S xxx

im so sorry to hear that send my luv to u both n kp on trying ull get there in the end take care itl happen jen xxxx

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OMG I'm so sorry Sending big hugs your way. Fingers crossed you get a BFP again soon.

Take care

Ashley x x x

to read your sad news ... take care of yourself hun i'll be thinking of you

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