Hello all,

No questions, just feel like I need to write about the miscarriage(s) to get it out of me. In March 2005 I had my first miscarriage. It was a missed miscarriage (9 weeks), found out at 12 weeks. I had a d&c. We were devastated. The baby was unplanned and it took us some time to get used to the fact that we were going to be parents- but when we did - we were just besides ourselves with happiness. We were making plans, talking about getting married and the rest. When it ended, my partner (now husband) said, "let's try again." This was a total shock, as I had assumed he would go back to his previous opinion on the subject - "no kids for me thanks." But no, he was excited and determined to try again. The pregnancy really changed him - and made him realise that he did want kids, and I felt horrible for him, the loss really effected him badly. But we tried again, and we had a beautiful baby girl born to us in March of 2006. I worried and fretted in the beginning of that pregnancy that something would go wrong, but nothing did. I had a textbook pregnancy, labour and delivery.

And then we thought - let's try again. Initally we sort of half-heartedly tried. By that I mean we were not checking basal temps, checking CM or doing charts, we just sort of gave it a go. Nada, nothing, the big zero. Then we decided to really try (again no CM, or temps, but we did look at the calendar) - and bam - we get pregnant and my husband is walking around like a peacock and I am delighted and we start making plans again, certain that no way could I miscarry since I have already delivered a healthy baby girl. You can't miscarry, carry to full term and miscarry again could you?

Apparently you can. This Friday gone, I spotted, slightly. Nothing on Saturday or Sunday, but then more spotting on Monday. Tuesday I finally called the GP and got an appt at the Gynae ER. They confirmed my fears - I had miscarried. Apparently the baby's heart stopped - and just recently too (probably as recently as the last few days) at 9 weeks. I opted for the medical management option of the pills. I came home about 1pm yesterday and started bleeding at 3pm. Today is bad. Period pains, lots of blood, lots of clots and generally feeling slightly crazy and sad.

The thing about the D&C versus the pills is that I know the D&C carries risk, but you wake up and it is over. you bleed, have mild cramping, but it is over.

With the pills, it feels like anyway, I will be waiting a while for everything to "pass" and the pain and constant bleeding are just fecking reminders that you have lost a baby.

The other thing - and actually this is a question for anyone out there - hormones, what gives? In my two pregnancies where I miscarried, I had very few prego symptoms. Very mild if any nausea and vomiting, very slight (this time none) breast soreness, virtually no tiredness, sensitivity to smells, etc., etc., etc. With my daughter, as I said it was textbook. If it was a pregnancy symptom, I had it. My boobs hurt like crazy (I would walk around topless at home because bras and t-shirts hurt), I was incredibly sick for the first 14 weeks, tired, my skin was perfect, my hair stopped falling out, my nails grew like nuts, I craved random things (mostly milk, peanut butter and fruit - and of course the odd Big Mac).

So now of course, I am wondering could it be that my pregnancy hormones were not up to snuff during the two pregnancies that I miscarried? And if so, 1. Are there any natural remedies, lotions, potions to boost your prego hormones? 2. Are there any medicines I can ask about when I go in for my two week check? 3. Should I get them to check my prego hormone levels the next time I get pregnant as a precaution?

I know I am at the "why" stage of this, but if you have any ideas, I would love to hear them.

My husband is taking care of our little one - and it is hard not to smile and laugh and dance with her - as she is too little to know what is up and only knows when she wants a cuddle or something to eat or for you to play with her. Looking at her I feel thankful and realise that the best gift I have is her smiling little self and my wonderful, but tired hubby.

This morning I asked her, "can mommy have a hug"? She ran over to me, wrapped her arms around my neck and planted a little kiss on my cheek - I burst into tears.

I have also just suffered a miscarraige but at 5 weeks.Luckily it has been a complete miscarriage and everything is beginning to settle down.
I have two children froma previous marriage and this baby would have been the first for myself and new hubby and his first baby.
Like you,I had every pregnancy sympton going when I was pregnant with my other two children,sickness,very very sore boobs,tiredness....the lot! With this pregnancy however I only felt a little tired..minor sore boobs....nothing else and the day before the bleeding started it all stopped!

I don't think there is anything that you can take to improve these hormones.All you can do is make sure you are healthy when you conceive,eat healthily,no smoking,no alcohol etc.

I don't think they will even test your hormone levels unless you are bleeding again.

Unfortunately,like me all you can do is to try again!

Hi,

I am so sorry about your miscarriage, I had one a few weeks ago and am so fed up. I know we should have waited before ttc again but we haven't so dreading my period coming.

My story briefly, I had three miscarriages and my partner and I were about to have some tests done when I fell pregnant. My little one is now 2 and so we decided to try for baby number 2. I also thought that after having a successful pregnancy after my miscarriages that I would be ok this time. We have been trying for about 4 months and we were delighted to get caught so soon but miscarriage at 6 weeks.

Miscarraige is horrible as you always want to know why it happened, but even the professionals are not certain why they happen. They only thing that I tell myself is that my baby was not right and as everyone wants to have a healthy baby. Some days this helps and other days it does not.

Due to this miscarriage I have no idea when my period is due, I have been doing ov sticks and just had a positive recently. I just know that if my period comes I am going to feel so upset all over again.

Keep in touch and I hope that our time comes very soon.