Hiya all,
just wondering if anyone could tell me their experiences or affer any advice, please?

I had a m/c in May and then had an AF just over 3 weeks later. Luckily, I got pregnant again in July, but sadly had another m/c on 29th July.

As yet, I have not got my period since the 2nd m/c. is this normal? how long did it take for others to get their 1st period after m/c, and how long should I leave it before i see my GP about this?

Sorry if this seems trivial, but I was hoping to start ttc straight away but it seems I haven't ovulated yet (I get bad ovulation pains so always know when this has happened)

I just assumed it would be about 3weeks like last time and am worried things are not back to normal yet.
Thanks for reading and any advice you can give

S
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I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks , 11 weeks ago. Still no period after D&C!! been to doctor who was not the most sympathetic he said can take up to a year !!! I can't wait a year i'll have gone insane by then. I have done so many tests( become obsessed ) but all neg- i keep getting pains which i think are period or ovulation pains then no period comes. I asumed it would be couple of months at the most.

First of all thanks for your reply Sam. I did feel a bit guilty when I started getting replies for making you ladies think about your painful experiences, even though I'm sure that you must think about it all of the time anyway.

I totally understand that you don't want to wait a year - and I don't think anyone should make you. I agree with Clare that you should see another doctor and hopefully you will get the care and support you need and deserve.

I got fed up of waiting and had done a few negative tests in the week I thought I would be due, so did another one this Tuesday and got a BFP. I didn't have a period since my m/c on 29th July, and think I conceived 18 days after my m/c and caught straight away - this makes me just over 5 weeks now.

I hope this gives you some hope that it is possible, in fact I think there are a couple of recent posts on here from others who have also caught straight after m/c.

Thanks again for all of your support and I will keep my fingers tightly crossed that you get all the BFPs you deserve.

S
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I can't believe they've told you it can take up to a year to have a period! I had a D&C at the beginning of August and they told me I could try again within 2 weeks if I felt up to it coz my body would now be back to normal. I believe them that it can take up to a year for your periods to become regular again but not having had a period at all is strange to me. Is there another doc you can see? It's amazing how much their opinions can differ. If I've ever had a gripe with one doc I've always gone to another one soon after. And more often than not the second doc has been more helpful. Failing that, were you assigned a midwife? If you still have her contact details she if you can get a chance to speak to her and ask her opinion.

I don't really know whether your doc is right or wrong but either way, I think you need to seek a second opinion.

Keeping my fingers crossed for your period to come along soon. Or better still, a positive pregnancy test!!!!

Claire x

it seems to vary a lot, not just from person to person but from m/c to m/c. I've had 3 now, with the first and second I only bled for about a week and my period came within 3 weeks, almost bang on my old cycle so assumed the same would happen with my third. My last m/c started on 9/7/07 and I bled for 2 weeks with slight spotting for another week after that. My next period came on 17/8 so nearly 6 weeks from when the m/c started and almost 4 since it ended. I have heard of cases where it's taken a couple of months or even longer for things to settle down. Go and talk to your doctor if you're worried, know they're not always very approachable but it is what they're there (and we pay our taxes!) for.

Am so sorry for your losses, know how hard it is. Lotsa love,

Clare xx

Just wanted to say thanks for responding, and for letting me know your experiences.

The only person I ever speak to about my pregnancies (apart from my partner) is my friend who had a baby 10 months ago after trying for ages and eventually having success with IVF. When I told her I was waiting for AF she told me it took 3 or 4 months after she had her baby and to just wait as it might take this long.
I must admit I am so so impatient the thought of waiting months before we can start trying again is killing me!

I think I will wait until it's about 2 months (another 3 weeks away )and then go and see the doctor if I'm still waiting. He's a lovely bloke and has said he will send me for early scans and possibly hcg injections if/when i'm lucky enought to get pregnant again, but I feel like I'm stalking him as I must have seen him about 8 times in the last 6 months!
Anyway, thanks again for your support. Fingers crossed we'll be corresponding on the "expecting a baby" forum soon!
Big hugs
S
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I had my first miscarriage (and hopefully my last!) on July 11th. I was 12 and a half weeks, and found out on a scan my baby had died at 9 weeks.

I was looked after very well in the EPU in Sheffield and went in the following day for a D&C - something which was so horrific and upsetting I wouldnt wish on any woman.

To cut a long story short (and avoid me crying over the keys) I bled for about 5 days post op, then got my AF 5 weeks later. My midwife said it can take anything from 4-6 weeks to arrive, so she was bang on.

I am so pleased to have foud somewhere to share my experiences and just want to say sincerely that the woman who hae to go through this are the most brave, and amazing woman there are. Im lucky, I have a great boyfriend, an amazing family and great friends - plus a lovely furry labrador who has been my constant companion. I wish everyone all the very very best - no-one could ever understand this agony like we can. Lying on the anaestetic table waiting for my op, I held my tummy and said goodbye - knowing that when I woke up I would be empty, and that my baby would be gone, but never ever forgotten.

Laura x

Laura,
thank you for sharing your experience with me, I'm really sorry for what you went through.
My experience has been that the people who respond on this site offer such amazing support that it really has helped me to deal with the ups and downs of the last 4 months or so.

I do hope that you feel the same support, anybody who has been through a miscarriage certainly deserves a little TLC, even if it is from anonymous friends such as I have found here!

Take care and thanks again
S
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