can anyone help me please...i just dont know how to feel so im writing it to anyone who will reply.it was 21 weeks when they told us...one minute im ok and the next im in tears over the silliest of things, like seeing a baby on the tv or just pregnant women...it feels like something has been stolen from me and the pain wont go away. we're meant to be celebrating the birth of our baby, instead we're visiting his grave, how long will the pain last, will it ever go??? my wonderful partner is taking me away on the day that i would have been giving birth and im really exited, but all i can think about is how im supposed to have my baby here and how busy i should be....not going on holiday and enjoying myself. good news though, we have been told we can try again...and so you know....we are. no luck as yet though. i will keep my head up.

bebe3579xxxxx

I am so sorry! I really am! I can only imagine what you're going through. My brother died after being born prematurely and having several defects and unfortunately the pain doesn't really go. But it does get easier to talk about and I often find talking about it helps. We visit his grave often. He was born on xmas eve so we all go down together and speak to him. I treat him like any other of my brothers. He's not just another lost baby, he was a child with his own identity. So now you're trying again and when you do get pregnant again, think of that baby as your second child and a brother or sister to your little boy, who'll they'll never meet. I'm not sure it will help or not, I may be making things harder for you but it is always easier for me to say I've got 4 brothers instead of 3.

Always here to chat if you need to.
Claire x

hi...just wanted to say thanks for your reply and the kind words you said, and when i have another baby i will always remember my angel "JACK" i will never forget....

thanks again bebe3579xxxx

your coming up to a very important day and you are bound to be on an emotional rollercoaster the pain probably won't ever go but it will ease over time you might not think it now but it will. i went to see a counsellor after i had my miscarriage and it did help to get stuff off my chest to someone nt emotionally involved maybe that would be something that might help you.
go on your holiday and enjoy yourself it will do you good, no ones sayin you've got to forget your little boy but just give yourself some me time and relax, will help with trying again.
anyway take care, happy trying
love laura x

thanks so much for your kind reply, i just wanted to let you know i am still seeing a counsillor and she is great...and im also hoping that this holiday "WILL" help things along and help to relax also, thankyou for your support.

bebe3579

glad to hear your seeing a counsellor to be honest i think it's something all women should be offered.
i hope you have a lovely holiday and let us know how you are feeling when you get back.
take care
love laura x