I have recently lost my my baby declan at 8 days old. it has now been two weeks since i lost him and i am trying to deal with it. i feel numb all the time i talk about it and i get upset and then i will have moments when i just want to punch everything that i see. it is going to inquest as there was a stuff up in the labour room as my boy was too big for my pelvis as he was 11 pounds i am just wondering if any one else has had this happen to them. he was such a fighter most of his organs had shut down during delivery but during the next 8 days he got nearly all of his organs working just his brain would not work to keep them going he was so strong that when it came to making a decision on whether or not to keep him on the breathing machine the doctors came in while we were trying to make up our minds and told us that they had to take the tubes out as he was gagging on them and it was blocking the tubes so machine was not working no more so our brave little fighter Declan Brian fought for twelve more hours he gave me and his dad a chance to hold him and the hosiptal set up a room with a double bed for us to be a family. We laid him between us and i sung lullaby's to him and just keep letting him that he is always in our hearts forever and that it was ok to go to a place where he could be a beatiful angel and that there was lots of people up there to look after him. Myself and declan's dad use to lie up in bed while i was pregant and just couldnt wait for the moment for when we could lie in the bed together with our baby in between us and just sleep together like a family and our beautiful little boy let that happen we had dosed off for ten minutes and my partner woke me up to tell me he had gone so our beutiful little boy gave us a whole night together as he had passed away at ten to eight in the morning.i remember dreaming in those ten minutes of my little boy telling me that he was happy that i let him go as he was going to watch over me and his dad and as i leant over to kiss his dad he dissapeared.i know that declan knows we love him and we always will and he will always love us.


sorry that it goes on but i really needed to share that. so if any one else has lost a baby and can write back and share there stories or just let me know that you can get through this.

I hope that things become easier for you with time, all my love abigailxxxxx

Hi there,

Just wanted to send you big hugs, love and support your way.

I have also been through a similar experience, i was 40+7 days over due when I miscarried.

The complete shock at first then all the emotions are alot to handle and some how wish we could just switch off from it all to control how much we are going through.

What we do have though is the love and support of people around us, and somehow we must draw strength from that.

I'd like to wrap my arms around you now and take away all your pain. Time shall help, it may not seem like it now but somehow it shall.

People Love you I know, and you have my support and prayers too.

God Bless you & Bug Hugs,
Natalie xxxx

I to have had a loss of a child, back in feb 07. There isnt a day that goes by that i dont think about my son, REECE. The pain will never go away but give it time and it will get easier trust me. I didnt go full term, only to 22wks but trust me the pain was unbearable. Please whenever your feeling down talk to someone because that does help. Dont block your feelings in. Part of the grieving process is to be angry too. Im always here if you need to talk xxx

you brave brave lady, cant even imagine how you are feeling. im sure hes a beatiufll little angel now and looking down on you. keep strong and thinking of you
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xx

Reading your post brought me to tears. My experience stretches as far as having 2 miscarriages so I can only begin to imagine the hurt and loss you must be feeling.

I'm sure Declan is an angel and that he'll never be far away from you.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Love and hugs

Sarah. xx

i cant imagine what your going through it must be terrible, but i think your are amazing for sharing how things were, declan knew how much mummy loved him and im sure hes at peace. And remember that hes no longer suffering there was nothing you could have done and make him proud.
Its hard to believe these things still happen today.
My thoughts are with you at this hard time and if you ever need to talk im always hoving in here somewhere.
(((((hugs)))))

thoughts b wiv you at a time u need them.. any time u need a chat plz feel free to do so



all my love


donna

thank you for all your support it is nice to know that there is people out there who know how i am feeling!!!
Thank you so much.
cianne xoxo