I wrote before about my little boy Declan. i got to carry him full term and was 8 days overdue, we lost him 8 days later. i cant even stand looking at my self in the mirror any more because i just feel so empty and i have strecht marks all across my belly and just feel useless because i thought i had it all planned i was going to be a stay home mum so i could watch my little boy grow. but now i feel useless because i dont get to do that. i miss him so much. it was never sospose to happen like this i am only 21 and had the most healthest pregancy.i just dont understand. WHY????

i need to know if some one has dealt with this before as i dont know any body that does. any one that has lost a baby please give me some advice cause everyone just keeps telling me that i will get through it but i just dont feel like i will.

hi,
Im sure you have heard these words alot recently i am so sorry and as otehrs i personally cannot imagine what you are going through. My mother in law lost her little girl when she was only 1 years old and although it was hard at the time, she had gone on to have three more children. Now must be very hard everything is sitll happening, Please give your self time, Your body is still recovering. I do know other people who have had losses and they all have said that at the time it is hard and it seems like the light at the end of the tunnel is far far away but with time it does help. Everyone knows that you and your parnter love your little boy and always will. What im trying to say is time is a great healer and my mother in law, my aunt with time had more children. I dont know if i am helping but i hope i am. If you would like to have a talk please do.
give your self time.
Jan. My thoughts are with you. Many hugs.

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I can't say anything that will make you feel better and I haven't experienced the same sort of loss. I just wanted you to know that I read your posts and really feel for you and sending you lots of love.

Hxxxxxxx