hi there ive been looking at this site for the last week and realise im not alone. i was 12wks pregnant with my fourth child which was not planned but very wanted i stareted bleeding a week ago and cutting long story short was told baby had no heart beat im so devestated they sent me away 4 another wk to see if nature takes its course if not booked in on friday for a d&c. im so confused and scared how im feeling i ache with pain and all i seem to think about is trying for another baby when this is all over is there a time limit to wait is it going to happen again or should i listen to other people and be greatfull for what i already have please help m a mess my husband says when i ready he would like to try again.

to hear that. i had one natural mc at 6 weeks on the 9th of august (hubby's birthday), will never forget that. I know the pain and the mess you are in, it does get better. The hospital and doc's do like you to wait for a af to start trying but i conivced about a week and half later, when i found out, i went to doc and my doc said they only say to wait so its easier to work out dates and easier for them to do their job. Well that doc was 2 days out of off what the 12 week scan said i was, so it cant be that much hard work for the docs to work out. I am giving you hope here, i am now 15+1 with a healthy pregnancy and healthy looking baby. If you want to try again, then no-1 can tell you if its too early to try, there's only 2 people who can decided and thats you and your hubby. Just start trying when you feel ready again. Remeber, if/when you fall pregnant again think positive please, i didnt and i reget it now.
Mail me anytime you want to talk, i am here for you
Take Care,
Lis 15+1

Know exactly what you are going through. Have had numerous misc, but also have 3 daughters and am 16 weeks gone with number 4. I can still hear my mum saying to stop trying for any more and be thankful for 3 children. Well NO, only you and your partner can decide that. Things do get better, you do get through it and hopefully the future will be great for you. Take care.