found out today am having miscarriage, only found out i was 6 week pregnant on wednesday. am totally devastated cant think of anything else-feel so usless. am also worried that this may happen again in future. just cant believe it. would be nice to chat to anyone going through similar thingX

I miscarried my 1st pregnancy at 10 1/2 weeks. Like you I felt useless and blamed myself. I also wondered it if would happen every time I got pregnant. I now have 4 gorgeous little boys and am nearly 10 weeks with my 5th, so it can happen.

Take care

Sarah

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my first pregnancy was gone last week at 12th week pregnancy. It was my first ultrasound, my fetus had no heart beat... I am trying to understand what happend, I am Japanese living in Canada with canadian husband... this situation is really really difficult and no friends here to share with my feeling... why I join here is I want to know my feeling to express in English, because it is hard for me to express my feeling in English. I would like to share this sadness with someone.

still got very sore boobs and stopped bleeding now just spotting. how long will sore boobs last? also have been feeling very tired since mc is this normal? x

I was totally exhausted for about two weeks after and spent a lot of time sleeping which i thought was my body's way of telling me to take it easy so i could recover physically. My boobs had stopped being sore just before so maybe they will stop soon, take care, Rach x

"I'm here too "

Hi i have had 2 m/c since Aug so totally know how you feel my 1st i had a D&C and i only bled for a couple of days The 2nd was a naturall one and i bled for a week so i think it all depends on your body. This is a very hard time for you right now and if you need to talk we are all here for each other they helped me understand that it's not my fault and to look to the future of a healthy baby soon.

Take care
Jamie xx

thanks for your replies. feeling better now both physically and emotionally! how long is bleeding likely to last? x

My bleeding lasted just under 2 weeks and I'm pretty sure I have ovulated by my cm (won't go into too much detail!!) exactly 14 days after m/c. Everyone seems to be different tho and depends whether you had d&C which I didn't. Mine did stop and start a bit too which was annoying cos I kept thinking it had gone. Hope it stops soon and glad to hear you're feeling a little better. I'm having a lot more good moments than bad moments and it's almost 3 weeks since so hang in there, love Rach x

i know what your going through i lost baby at 3 months and was told chances of next pregnancy being healthy are very high if you need to chat im here x

Hi hun,

just wanted to say how sorry I am, you're not alone and you're definitely not useless. We're all here if there's anything we can do just shout.

Lotsa love,
Clare xxx

to hear that. like a couple of other folk said, after a mc folk do open up to you and tell you about theirs.
My mother in law- She had 2 boys then a mc and then another boy and only told nick and me when i had mine (others boys dont know), she was massive support and to be honest she is the only one apart fae nick i can talk to about it face to face. And another 3 people told us after our mc. It is a hard time but someone close to you might tell you about their expriences and it could bring you close. Dont worry, you've still got the same chance of mc again as the folk who havent been though it. I am back on expecting list and conviced the week after the mc and this little angel is going good, i believe that the angel we lost is looking out for this one and when your are back on expecting list your little angel will be looking out for your little one. Take care pm me anytime,
Lis 17 weeks

The same happened to me 2 weeks ago at about 10 weeks. It is just too awful for words but talking on here does help and having the support of family and friends. There's no easy way to get through it but what Sarah said in her earlier reply is so right. Since my miscarriage so many people I know have opened up to me and I've realised that lots of women unfortunately go through this. Not that that's any consolation, but just want you to know that it's nothing you've done wrong and that next time it's more than likely that you and me will be luckier. Take care and just go with your feelings, I did this, cried a lot, talked a lot and altho the pain is still there it is no way near as raw as it was. PM me any time, Rach x.

I replied on the expecting forum too.

I know how you are feeling, I miscarried my first last August 06 at 8 weeks, I went on to miscarry my second at 5 weeks in July 07. I kept asking myself, why me?? No one else around me seemed to have any problems so what was it about me that meant I had to suffer. Unfortunatley it is very common and although that doesnt make it any easier, it helps to know that you're not alone. I dont know how you felt, but from day one with both pregnancies, they didnt feel right. I just knew there wouldnt be a baby at the end of it.

You are not useless, there is nothing at all you could have done to have changed what has happened, it just means that when your baby was developing, it didnt develope properly. You're little angel would never have been well enough to make it in the outside world so you're body made sure it wouldnt have to.

Dont be hard on yourself, give yourself time to grieve and time to get to terms with what is happening. Try to talk about it, it really does help. I found that when I was healthy again, it really helped our grieving process to say proper goodbye to our babies so we went to the beach and threw 2 white roses into the sea with our first and with our second, we released 2 balloons. It marked their short lives and helped to give me closure.

Having a miscarriage does not mean you're any more likely to have another, I was very unlucky. I am now comming up to 12 weeks pregnant and we keep thinking, '3rd time lucky' for us. If you need anything feel free to pm me anytime.

Thinking of you, take care.

Lots of love and hugs.

Sarah and baby (11+4 weeks). xxxxxxx

im so sorry to hear your news i do understand the feelings you are having as i had a miscarriage a week ago a 12wks. and i feel the same will it happen again but i think if you worry your next pregnancy wont be a happy occasion and it must be. the only way ive been able to handle it is to start trying again and pray that it dont happen again evreybody is different and you will find a way of coping, but pm me anytime and will help you threw all my love vikki