WE have been trying for a baby for 3yrs and we found out on christmas eve that we were 6 weeks it was the best christmas ever. Then yesterday our world fell apart and i had a miss carriage. I feel so useless and so empty. We had told everyone and now we have to try and tell them all that we have lost our so wanted baby. I really dont think that i can take anymore of this pain.Is there someone out there that feels the same way........xx

My christmas was not that great either, I had never had a miscarriage and then I did at 4 months pregnant, my world ended I lost the baby on christmas day and I thought I would never get over it. In fact you don;t get over losing your child you simply get through it. I can't imagine how it feels to have tried for 3 years it must be heartbreaking all I can say is get some counselling write in a journal and believe that it will happen again, Am bere if you need to talk or email me at cailceta@blueyonder.co.uk. Do you have other children?
I have a little girl who is five xx

Love Lynne xx

i mc over 3 week ago was 6 weeks pregnant. wasnt planning on having kids just yet and wasnt thriled when i first found out but within a couple of days i was smitten, three days after finding out i mc i was devestated. can honestly say its the worst thing i have ever experienced. i also told everyone and then had the awful job of telling them i had mc. when i am next preg i def wont be telling anyone untill i am 12 week and had scan, just feels so unfair. but trust me the pain will fade in time. the main thing that scares me is that i mc with first pregnancy, and am worried that i may mc again. if you need to chat im here. lets hope that this year brings us all that we want! take care x

i too found out christmas eve that i was 5 weeks pregnant and it was a lovely christmas pressie. then friday my world fell apart. i am lucky though i have got four other beatiful children to hold. but it does not make it any easier to deal with. they just give me a reason to smile. i know how empty you feel and hopeless and all the things you ask yourself could you have done better or different, but it is nothing you did wrong it just meant that the cells were not dividing properly or had a chromosomal problems. but all this does mean good things for you too. this bubby gave you a beautiful gift. it shows you that you can fall pregnant and will possibly soon be a mummy it will just take time. i struggled to fall pregnant with my first it took over two years the doctors kept telling me once i fall it would be easier with any subsequent children, so now that you have fallen pregnant, if they were correct which one assumes they are cause i have 4 in 6 years it should hopefully mean that when you decide you are ready it should happen again. i really hope things become easier for you.my heart is with you also i found everyone was wonderful when i told them what had happened they ended up being the best suport i could have asked for. all my love and best wishes to you. jo

I had a m/c 5 weeks ago and it is truly the most awful thing that has ever happened to me but how you are feeling right now is the worst and things will get better. I was able to talk to a close friend who had been through the same thing, my OH and my mum and i talked a lot but it made me feel better. I just went with my feelings and really felt my grief cos even tho you never met your baby from the moment you find out you're pregnant that baby is so real and you have to grieve and not deny your feelings. Hope you can take some time out from everyday life and let yourself recover. I honestly feel so much better and have way more up than down moments but i don't think you can ever forget. If you need to talk u can pm me anytime. Take care honey and i'm sending you a big warm hug, Rach x

Hi hun,

can't tell you how sorry I am this has happened but I promise you're not alone. My pain isn't anywhere near as raw as what you're going through, my last m/c was in July but I know how much it hurts and my heart goes out to you. Telling people what's happened is hard, I told most of my family about my 2nd pregnancy and then lost the baby at 9 weeks and I felt a total failure having to break the bad news. But in the end it helped that they knew what was happening to me, if they'd never known I was pregnant to start with it would've been even harder to explain why I was falling apart. I want to tell you that the pain does ease with time and that you will get through this but I suspect it's too soon for you to take any comfort from that so I will just say that I'm here if you need to talk. This forum saved my life after my last m/c and talking to people who had been through the same thing was about the only thing that kept me sane for a while. Let me know how you're doing when you feel up to it, will be thinking about you.

Love, Clare xxx

aww chicky im sending you lots of hugs, i know what you're going through, i had a miscarriage at 13 weeks in november last year and i took it really badly. i got really down, ended up leaving my very good job because i couldn't be bothered with anything. i felt hopeless and was hurting so much. the pain will never go away and you'll never forget but i can honestly say it does get easier. just take a day at a time, dont bottle anything up, whatever you're thinking however big/small/trivial you think it is just say it to someone. dont rush yourself either hun cos it takes time physically and emotionally to move on. you prob feel like you never want to try again cos you cant go through this again but i promise once you've got your head around it you will want to try, i left it a couple of months and im currently holding my 3 week old baby girl as i type this...good things do happen we just have to manage the bad times first. stay strong hun, if you want to chat im on here loads. sending all my love and best wishes to you, x x x x
p.s. i forgot to say dont drink too much alcohol cos it makes it ten times worse. just keep talking x xx x

Hi there. Really sorry to hear about your loss.
I have just been through my 2nd m/c in 3 months and felt so low I thought I would never get through it but things do get easier. I promise you. Some days are harder than others and you will feel all thr emotions of sad, angry, helpless, but you have to grieve and crying helps so if you feel like you need to cry just let it out. This site is brilliant for talking to ladies who are going through the same thing. You have to give yourself time. Things will get easier. I no its hard now but you have to try and think positive and stay well and healthy so next time you concieve I'm sure things will be different. Life is very cruel to some of us. I am here if you want to talk. Vic xx