Hiya, im a newbie, im hellen,24, married with 1 daughter Della May whos 2.

I lost a baby @ christmas, I was 5 weeks along, the bleeding stopped a couple of days after the new year & I havent had a period yet. Im really struggling with my loss has my sister in law is pregnant, she found out she was pregnant 2 days after me & have been rather insensitive about my situation, they called to let us know they had seen the midwife & everything was fine & were booked for a scan & my husband (being has nice has he could) explained it had been less than a month since we'd lost our baby & it was still a raw pain & it wasnt that we werent happy its just that we couldnt express happiness for them while we were still in shock & grieveing!

We decided we want to start trying for a baby again asap but Im scared of a 2nd miscarriage, my husband recommended I take pregnacare tablets this time round but I was just wondering if my miscarriage will make any problems in a second pregnancy? Am i @ greater risk? Also has anyone else got caught pregnant straight after a miscarriage without seeing a period between? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Hellen

Hi there Hellen,

My name is Lynne and I am in the same situation as you I lost a baby on christmas day 07 I was four months pregnant I have a daughter Jessica who is five and my lovely husband Pete.

We are trying for another baby now I have had my first period and I know that it is difficult taking pregnacare vitamins is essential, I havn't stopped taking mine since I lost the baby. I have also joined the gym and I am drinking lots of water and eating fruit and veg. You have to be healthy emotionally and physically when trying for another baby, both of you, it is a very traumatic time because all your hopes and dreams for your unborn child have died along with your baby. Take heart and know that all most all people do have a normal healthy pregnacy after miscarriage, get in touch with the miscarriage assocaiation they are so helpful they also have a website just type in miscarriage assosiation.
Remember though that you do have a beautiful daugher and you will have that other baby. Life goes on your baby is probably with mine they are both christmas angels. Go and get counselling as well that is very important. Your baby may have died but they are still with you in spirit so have hope, faith and trust and most of all believe that you will be pregnant again soon. Let go of fear of miscarriage it will only happen if there is something wrong. Most women go on to have a healthy pregnancy next time around.

Love Lynne x

Sorry to hear about your lost.
I know how you feel about your sis in law being pregnant, my sis in law was too, when i mc but she was something like 18-22 weeks (cant remeber) and she kept going on about her baby and not thinking how upset we were and how raw it was for us. she even said that she was lucky to be pregnant and to have a 3 year old as she was told she couldnt convice as she has an illness that can stop her. To say it a nice way, i felt like telling her stop being an idoit, (not the words i would say to her face). Folk just dont think and anit worth worrying about.
As for you, try when your ready and if thats now then thats now. Your mc wont affect a pregnancy and you anit got a greater risk, you've still got the same chance (1 in 4) of mcing as you had when you were pregnant with Della May (which i have to say lovely name), so dont worry about that.
I got pregnant in aug 07 within about a week and a bit of mcing, so i havent seen a period since Jun 07, which was the last period b4 the lost pregancy, my doc and midwife used my mc date for dating me, they were only 2 days out, so they can give you an estmaited due date without having a period in between. I used pregnacare with this one, as i felt they would be better, wether or not they helped i dont know, but made me feel better for taking them if that made sense. I am now 22 weeks and 4 days into this pregnancy and its a healthy strong pregnancy, so if it can happen to me then it can happen to you, Sorry for this being so long, pm me any time you want, take care hun.
Lis 22+4 pink bump

so sorry to hear of your loss. I m/c at the end of Nov and like you i'm scared of it happening again. My GP told me that we could start trying whenever we felt ready even if it was before a period cos the dating scan could date it. She herself fell pregnant 6 weeks after a m/c.
As far as i know, just cos you've had one m/c doesn't mean there's more chance next time. It's just pure bad luck and is unfortunately very common. I think if you have 3 in a row then there may be another genetic reason that could be investigated.
I've only just started to feel ready so have had a period now so can't help you there but i know some of the girls caught very quickly.
I've been taking pregnacare, stocking up on folic acid!
Good luck with ttc and hope it happens soon for you, see you over on ttc page?

Rach x