hi all went to epau today and got my worst nitemare confirmed ive lost the baby so thats m/c number to cant believe it feel so lost and not sure about anything anymore so want a baby and so scared to try again as the fear of another m/c has any1 got any advice
vikki

I am very sorry to hear about what you have gone through, I know exactly what it's like. I have also had two m/cs. I had one last September and another last December (2 in less than 3 months). At the time I was in such a rush to have a baby, and got pregnant the second time only 4 weeks after my first m/c. I then decided after the 2nd m/c to leave it 3 months before trying again. It gave me chance to think about other things and not let it take over my life. It's now coming to the end of that 3 months and it's kind of scary but i'm looking at it differently now. I'm not gonna think about it like I'm trying and talk about it like I have before, if it happens then it happens and I won't be working out dates and waitin to take a test like last time. I'm just gonna leave it, and see what happens. That way I can be more relaxed and it's not the focus of my life. It might be hard to think like that, and not obsess over it all, but i think it may work.
Good luck to you for whateva you do next, but don't feel like you need to rush into anything rite away.

so sorry to hear that you are going through it again. How are you bearing up? I don't really know what advice to offer that you won't already know. Just to give yourself some time out to grieve and recover and be reassured by messages from other girls who've had m/c and gone on to have healthy pregnancies. It's so hard that some of us have to go through this but we will get there in the end and appreciate what we've got all the more.
Sending you absolutely massive hugs and thinking of you lots, Rach x x x - pm me any time x x x

I hope this helps.

I had my first miscarriage in Aug 06, it was a terrible experiece that I thought I'd never recover from. My heart was broken and I found it very difficult to grieve the loss of someone I have never even met but loved so much. Time is a great healer and as it passed I felt stronger and more confident.

When I fell pregnant in May 2007 I was thrilled. I thought there was no way it would happen again. Unfortunatley as the week went on I realised things didnt feel right and I knew I was going to lose the baby. This time, as well as suffering the heart break and loss I also had a huge feeling of guilt and failure that I couldnt protect these little angels. I think although phisycally the miscarriage was easier, lasting only 3 days, the emotions were harder to deal with. Again, time helped. I realised that I needed to forgive myself for something that simply wasnt my fault. It was just very, very bad luck. I still felt jealous of other women, who were pregnant but that eased too.

I lost the last baby in July and in October I found out I was pregnant again. This pregnancy felt different from the word go. It felt safe. I was still very scared but as the days passed I knew we would be ok. I look at it as third time lucky.

You will be scared, only try again when you feel ready. Just think 3rd time lucky and remember, you CAN get pregnant! Take time, greive. We took a white roses to the sea for our first loss and released 2 balloons for our second. It really helped me to come to terms with things. I wish you lots of love and luck and hope you find the strength you need to get through this. If you need to PM me, feel free, anytime.

Sarah & Jelly 19+6 weeks. xxxxxxx

I'm really sorry. I just want to give u some hope. I had 2 m/c, last one i had a d&c in july. I couldnt believe it had happened again, my friend was pregnant as well, 4 weeks ahead, so it was quite hard. Then I got pregnant that first month after d&c. was convinced i would miscarry again, even had brown bleeding like other 2 m/c, got to epau and they said it was a haemtoma, baby was fine. i refused to believe it, in denial for a while, now i'm 26 weeks.
You can't live in fear of it happening again, easier said than done i know. i consider myself stronger now, i already have 2 kids and i appreciate them more, i have a lot more sympathy and respect for people who try for years just to concieve.
Make sure you give yourelf time to get to terms with it. Some people may try to tell you it's for the best (!) and you didn't really know the baby. as if that makes a difference! my family said that to me, nice!!

Hopefully we'll see you back on the pregnancy boards soon.
Take Care
Sarah X

I am so sorry to read about your loss. You may not recognise my user name, however I posted a thread before knowing of your sad news & wanted you to know now that my thoughts are with you.

Please don't give up, get yourself well & we will be here for you x

tc xx

hi

sorry o hear about your loss. i am in same position vicky but i believe it will happen for all of us . two miscarriages is not uncommon at let thats what dotors tell me. let yourslf heal and try again when you ready

xx