Ladies

Sincere thanks for your HELPFUL and insightful advice. The last 13 days have been THEE most challenging of my life!. However, I am pleased to say that I feel inspired and each day is getting better.

I am physically healing with each passing day. My partner and I finally spoke after 10 days of agonising silence (we had broken up the day after the m/c as I had undermined our love and trust by shutting him out of the m/c process). It was probably precipitated by the outrageous romantic gesture I did? (or maybe that he had had time to think?). Last week I bought him an Ipod, downloaded 152 songs each with a message or two for him, also bought a DAB digital radio (for his footie)with ipod docking system and then wrote the most compelling letter of my life to him! In which I explained my actions and expressed my pure love and devotion for him.(At this point I had resigned myself to the fact that our relationship was sadly over)...I then made a one day round trip of 370miles by car to Devon to his HQ Office where he was last week and HAND DELIVERED the gifts and presents! I was only in Devon for 15mins and made a concerted effort NOT to see / speak to him (didn't want him to think I was stalking him). Just gave it to an Admin person with instructions that she should tell him I had brought the stuff in person.

Needless to say the journey was painful and ardous because of my condition (I had developed an infection in my uterus, the bleeding had intensified). I was put on 7 days antibiotics +iron tabs. Nevertheless, I needed him to understand the extent of my feelings for him-I hope it worked. The bleeding completely stopped last Friday...which is incidently the first day we (partner & i)spoke face to face and he agreed to give us another chance...its going to be a hard painful road to recovery, but I am determined to make it work...as long as we are together and grieving our loss as ONE, I can handle things-He wants to start trying as soon as I am better...and I want nothing more than JUST that. First ALOT of healing for us both. Pregnacare, healthy diet and excercise sound like GREAT ideas for me.

I am thinking of asking him to join me for couple post m/c counselling as I am worried that he has internalised alot of his grief for the loss of our baby. I would also like to plant a flower of rememberance for our baby in M/C Assoc's meadow...do I just call them and ask?

All in all the future looks promising and I have a renewed zest for life and LOVE...

Take care ladies and keep your chins up...things CAN get better...look at me I smiled at the weekend for the FIRST time since my m/c on 22 Jan!

Hugs
AbbyG31

so glad you're feeling positive and that things are all sorted with you and your man. You are so romantic, what a lovely thing you did. Glad your infection has cleared up, i had one too and thought i was never going to stop bleeding! but of course it did and physically i really started to pick up then. Emotionally, it takes a lot longer but you don't need me to tell you that! It's a real rollercoaster.
Counselling sounds like a good idea for you both, to include him in the grieving process, i sometimes wonder if i should have some counselling but i am mostly ok.
Anyway girl, you've made it through what i think was the worst, most darkest time of my life and we made it to the other side, shows how strong we are.

lots of love, and keep smiling, Rach x x x

Glad to hear that you are feeling much better.

As fot the forget me not flower.
You can got o the miscarriage association and go to the forget me not meadow. You will need the 2nd meadow as the 1st one is now full. Read some of what other people have put and then use the email link and send a massgae for your angel and they will do the rest. A couple of days later you will have your own flower planted in the meadow and when you go over the flower your message will come up.

I really do hope that you are getting better and hope that things work out well with your partner, Good luck

Linzi xxxx